Episode 52: How to Dodge Double-Dealing & Trickery During Late Summer & Always

Ever wonder how the women around you seem to get all the things done? Ever wish parenting had a playbook where rules were hard and fast and yes's and no's were easy to determine? On Episode 52 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie dive into both, first with an Ask Us Anything segment during which they tackle a listener question and then in a segment (We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss) in which they discuss their own philosophy and daily practice of standard yes's and no's. After a lively discussion full of examples and solutions, the women wrap up the Mama Bear Mini with a segment called Maybe It's Meditation, detailing their current meditation practice and what their noticing as a result.

Ask Us Anything

A listener sent the following question for Leslie and Tesi to answer and they tackle in their first segment:

How do you balance 8 kids between the two of you, husbands, homes, and careers? Be real. What’s an average day like for you? I see so many women just killing it it at so many different things and my brain just can’t comprehend how everyone seems to get everything done. Please enlighten me…

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We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss...

Jen Hatmaker wrote a blog post last summer outlining she and her husband's parenting Yes's and No's. These are the hard lines that parents can draw in their homes and lives that help guide their families. For instance, Tesi says NO to doing things (chores, etc.) for her kids, but she allows them to turn her home into a jungle gym. Leslie and her husband draw a hard NO on violent video games and movies, but say YES to music. We love the idea of setting these parameters for our families.

Check out Jen Hatmaker's books and blog. Her most recent book is called For the Love; our favorite is Seven.

Maybe it's Meditation

Tesi and Leslie discuss the benefits of meditation and the ways they see it playing out in their lives currently. Don't forget Leslie's favorite meditation app, Headspace.

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Episode 50: Love & More Love (Leslie Wrote A Book!)

You guys! Our very own co-host wrote a book! It's called Mama Bear's Manifesto and it's available for pre-order on Amazon! Leslie and Tesi spend the podcast talking about the basic idea of the Mama Bear lurking inside each of us and celebrate the arrival of Leslie's book in the world. Their excitement is real! After all, the Manifesto shares the message of this podcast: We are powerful. We are ferocious. We are perfectly positioned to wreak havoc on this world! You're going to love seeing this spelled out on the page!

Within their celebration, the co-hosts discuss the power of female friendship and the way Mama Bear's Manifesto aims to encourage women to use their relationships and their incredible capacity to love in big and bold ways, all the while encouraging listeners to identify the strength of their own Mama Bear and make the decision to use her power for good. They discuss Leslie's writing process and get real about the making of the book. In both big and small ways we are meant to live authentic, LOVE-filled lives. It's a bonus when you uncover your Mama Bear and begin training her for a better world. As the book and the podcast both enthusiastically declare, it's the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world!

Pre-order Leslie's book, Mama Bear's Manifesto, by clicking here!

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Episode 48: Sorry, Not Sorry

Ever wish you could be a bit more forthcoming in putting your ideas and values into the world? Do you ever find yourself apologizing for things that don't merit an "I'm sorry"? On Episode 48 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie dive into both issues, first with an Ask Us Anything segment during which they tackle a listener question and then in a segment (Things That Make You Go Hmmm...) in which they talk about the way women often overuse the words "I'm sorry." After a lively discussion full of examples and solutions, the women wrap up the Mama Bear Mini with an Obsesh Sesh, detailing their current favorites.

Ask Us Anything

A listener sent the following question for Leslie and Tesi to answer and they tackle in their first segment:

You’ve talked about some pretty hot button issues in some of your podcasts. Privilege, sex, rape, etc. I think so much of what you said but I don’t feel brave enough to actually voice it out loud or post stuff about it on my social media. Where do you get the ovaries (that’s for you, Tesi) to do it on a podcast that has so many listeners?

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Things That Make You Go Hmmmmm...

Pantene Commercial "Shine Strong" — find it HERE.

Why Women Apologize and Should Stop, New York Times, Sloan Crosby

Sorry, Not Sorry—Why Women Need to Stop Apologizing for Everything, Fast Company, by Gwen Moran

Amy Schumer's "I'm Sorry" Skewers A Culture That Makes Women Apologize Constantly, Huffington Post, by Emma Gray

Obsesh Sesh

Tesi's latest obsessions: Summer Camp! | Dry Shampoo | Writing

Leslie's latest obsessions: Sweet Corn | CRUDE Facial Cleanser | #GIRLBOSS


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Episode 44: Parenting through Tragedy: Thoughts on Nice, Alton Sterling, Phillandro Castille, & the Dallas PD

On this Mama Bear Mini, Tesi and Leslie reign in the mighty-Mama-Bear-poised-for-action that resides in each of them and attempt to have a disciplined, yet passionate, conversation about the world at large. Leslie just returned from a three-week vacation that involved time in Nice, so the sisters can't help but once again tackle the headlines. The women talk a bit about Leslie’s vacation and a bit about Nice, but the bulk of the conversation is a discussion of how we engage our mama bear to fight for justice in the world and how to raise our kids to be compassionate and loving when it feels like the world is the opposite. Tesi and Leslie do their best to talk through two basic questions in the midst of very challenging times: How do we remain compassionate and nonjudgmental during these times? And how do we raise our kids to do the same?

Links mentioned in the show:

Episode 39 and Episode 40 on the Mama Bear Dares Podcast tackle white privilege

CEO/President of MOPS, Mandy Arioto, talks about empowering kids on Episode 41.

Tesi's Facebook page to check out her viral post!

LINKS FOR FURTHER READING

The New Jim Crow, by Michelle Alexander

What does it mean to be long for so long? Reflections on Black Reality & White Delusion

Columnist Nicholas Kristof wrote a five-part series for the The New York Times, When Whites Just Don't Get it


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Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango (Let's Talk About Sex)

On Episode 40 of Mama Bear Dares, the hosts talk about, well, sex. Tesi and Leslie—with the help of life coach Gervase Kolmos (Episode 27)—discuss the nature of sex and how it changes during pregnancy, after children, and with every single stage of life. The three women celebrate healthy partnerships, romantic love, and the joys of physical touch, all the while being honest about the challenges that parenting brings into the mix of a relationship. They candidly discuss tips and tricks to maintain a healthy sex life and discuss the topic as only girlfriends can. Listen in!

On this episode, the hosts reference Episode 24: Relationship Advice from Old Wives.

We love gervase! Here's where you can find her:

ShinyHappyHuman.com | Watch for Gervase's latest: Master Your Mom Life...coming soon!

Join the Mommy Soul Tribe private Facebook group by clicking here!

Follow her on social media: FB, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube.


Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

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Episode 32: Summer & the War Against Manufactured Magic

On Episode 32 co-hosts Leslie and Tesi dive into a topic near and dear to their hearts— the war against manufactured magic. It’s a Gladiator’s road to be sure, but today's episode tackles the idea that kids can make their own fun this summer and that women can release the pressure they may feel as moms to create constant joy, whimsy, and fun for them. We focus on a great article that appeared in The Huff Post in which writer and mother Bunmi Laditan says this:

Parents do not make childhood magical. Abuse and gross neglect can mar it, of course, but for the average child, the magic is something inherent to the age. Seeing the world through innocent eyes is magical. Experiencing winter and playing in the snow as a 5-year-old is magical. Getting lost in your toys on the floor of your family room is magical. Collecting rocks and keeping them in your pockets is magical. Walking with a branch is magical.
It is not our responsibility to manufacture contrived memories on a daily basis.
— Bunmi Laditan

The podcast opens with a celebration of Tesi's birthday and ends with a dare to let memories be made because you refuse to give into the pressures of the world and allow your kids experience magic on their own.

Hey, Mama Bear! It’s your birthday!

It’s Tesi’s birthday and she shares her hopes and dreams for her next year of life! Birthday wishes include: Continuing to chase our Mama Bear Dares Podcast dream, try to send time and getaway with Zach during their 14th year of marriage, embrace a slower summer and life in her new community.

Summertime and the war against manufactured magic...We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss

We discuss Bunmi Laditan's article, I'm Done Making My Kid's Childhood Magical, which we first came across on Huffington Post.

Bunmi’s first book, The Honest Toddler: A Child’s Guide to Parenting, is sure to be wise and good!

Here are some highlights of the conversation. Where do you fall on the issue of manufactured summertime magic?

  • My best parenting move is from the couch or the porch
  • We share childhood memories that were very simple, they weren’t manufactured for us! Tesi recalls a thrilling childhood—and she doesn’t remember seeing her mom during the day. (She was certainly not manufacturing magic.)
  • If it feels natural to you to create magic, then do it! But if it feels unnatural to you, don’t. Release the pressure of perfection!
  • We pose a few final questions from the article about childhood, magic, and where you stand on the relationship between the two...and ask our Mama Bear Community to answer online!

Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

Thanks to Wunderkind for the beats!