Episode 56: Youth Sports: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

On Episode 56, co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle the topic of youth sports. It’s a subject fraught with all kinds of high emotion and the women hold nothing back as they discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly. Tesi and Leslie encourage listeners who find themselves on the bleachers or on the sidelines to check their Mama Bear for her motives and conduct themselves in a way that engages the good and prevents the bad and the ugly from seeping into the line-up. The two are breathtakingly honest about their perception of the youth sports phenomenon in the United States and they challenge the conventions of gender, the struggle over expectations, and the physical health and well-being of the generation coming up in the ranks. It’s a huge and hot topic, and the co-hosts dive in deep as they discuss and encourage!

The Good:

  • Teaches time management
  • Motivates other positive behavior and task completion
  • Teaches teamwork and respect
  • Builds a solid foundation of health and wellness

The Bad:

  • Can be ultra competitive and intimidating for a non-competitive kid
  • Forces our babies to grow up too fast
  • Encourages an ugly (and false) expectation of masculinity
  • Time-suck (Is there still time for camp, family vacations, etc. when you're on a team?)
  • Cost prohibitive for some families

The Ugly:

  • The parents! (Let's be positive spectators, Mama Bears.)
  • Overuse and injury

The Take-Away:

Listen to Tesi’s Mama Bear DARE at the end of the episode for encouragement on living your values and loving well amidst a culture of heightened competitiveness, towering energy, and fraught emotion.

LINKS:

Listen to Jody Landers on Episode 3 for more wisdom!

And check out the following video about what kids really want from their spectator parents:


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Episode 55: Motherhood Abroad with Tarin Tesfaye

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to parent in a developing nation? Do you ever like to peer through the window of other worlds and observe how parenting plays out? On Episode 55, co-host Leslie grabs the mic in Addis Ababa, the capital of Ethiopia, and sits down with Tarin Tesfaye, an American woman living and mothering in a culture very different from the one we experience here in the United States. Listen in as she shares what it’s like to live in a mud hut on her in-law's family compound, the challenges and joys she finds in her everyday life with her husband and son, and her pulse on the world refugee crisis as an employee of ZOA, an NGO that focuses on helping internally displaced people, host populations, returnees, and a large population of refugees who fled a lethal combination of violence and drought in Somalia, conflict in South Sudan, and human rights violations in Eritrea.

Other points discussed:

  • Practicalities of mothering in a developing country (ex. laundry!)
  • Slowed-down lifestyle: Frazzled nature of American culture vs. life in Ethiopia
  • Refugee care (South Sudan, Somalia, Eritrea)
  • Encouraging the Other Self

LINKS:

Want to learn more about the refugee experience? Tarin recommends the following links:

Read Refugee Stories HERE | Stories from Eritrea and Somalia can be found HERE

Tarin works here: ZOA Ethiopia

Check out these books that focus on motherhood abroad or in worlds different than your own. Leslie has read and enjoyed them all:

Bringing up Bebe | The Battle Hymn of A Tiger Mom | Primates of Park Avenue | How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm: And Other Adventures in Parenting (from Argentina to Tanzania and everywhere in between)

Heading to Ethiopia? We highly recommend the Well Spring Guesthouse!

Mama Bears, we'd love to know what you think! Join the conversation online! Here’s where you can find us:

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Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much fun and really appreciate you listening!!

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Episode 52: How to Dodge Double-Dealing & Trickery During Late Summer & Always

Ever wonder how the women around you seem to get all the things done? Ever wish parenting had a playbook where rules were hard and fast and yes's and no's were easy to determine? On Episode 52 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie dive into both, first with an Ask Us Anything segment during which they tackle a listener question and then in a segment (We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss) in which they discuss their own philosophy and daily practice of standard yes's and no's. After a lively discussion full of examples and solutions, the women wrap up the Mama Bear Mini with a segment called Maybe It's Meditation, detailing their current meditation practice and what their noticing as a result.

Ask Us Anything

A listener sent the following question for Leslie and Tesi to answer and they tackle in their first segment:

How do you balance 8 kids between the two of you, husbands, homes, and careers? Be real. What’s an average day like for you? I see so many women just killing it it at so many different things and my brain just can’t comprehend how everyone seems to get everything done. Please enlighten me…

Do you have a question for the Mama Bear Dares podcast? Email mamabeardares@gmail.com or hit up the MBD social media channels and ask away!

We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss...

Jen Hatmaker wrote a blog post last summer outlining she and her husband's parenting Yes's and No's. These are the hard lines that parents can draw in their homes and lives that help guide their families. For instance, Tesi says NO to doing things (chores, etc.) for her kids, but she allows them to turn her home into a jungle gym. Leslie and her husband draw a hard NO on violent video games and movies, but say YES to music. We love the idea of setting these parameters for our families.

Check out Jen Hatmaker's books and blog. Her most recent book is called For the Love; our favorite is Seven.

Maybe it's Meditation

Tesi and Leslie discuss the benefits of meditation and the ways they see it playing out in their lives currently. Don't forget Leslie's favorite meditation app, Headspace.

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Episode 51: Give Your Child the World with Jamie C. Martin

On this episode of Mama Bear Dares, Tesi and Leslie talk to Jamie C. Martin, a mother, an avid reader, a homeschooler, a world traveler, and a witness to the terrible tragedy that took place at Sandy Hook Elementary School in December 2012. Jamie has written a book that the sister-hosts absolutely love and think you will, too! The women discuss Give Your Child the World: Raising Globally Minded Kids One Book at a Time and the ways in which we can help our children develop empathy and compassion through literature and story. After a conversation that covers topics ranging from the gift of public libraries to dealing with tragedy alongside children to the dynamic appeal of list-making to the beauty of our enormous world, the women leave listeners with a DARE that encourages listeners to think about their own story and the stories of others, using the collective narratives to give children the gift of uplifting, beautiful, redemptive tales as a shield from the world's cynicism and a springboard to a life of love and compassion.

Other points discussed:

  • Our shared love of books!
  • Homeschooling and intentional education
  • The power of STORY
  • Parenting through tragedy
  • How/Why to emphasize global-mindedness in your American household today

LINKS:

Leslie is reading a re-telling of Emma by Alexander McCall Smith, the author of The Ladies No. 1 Detective Agency  | Tesi is reading Dot Complicated: Untangling Our Wired Lives. Our kids are reading the new Harry Potter book (of course!), Anna Habiscus, James Harriott, and Sports Illustrated for Kids.

Episode 34 is a conversation about the power and joys of traveling with kids. Find it HERE.

Jamie C. Martin can be found at Simplehomeschool.net and on Facebook.

Buy the book, Give Your Child the World, HERE!

Honey for the Child's Heart

Check out these blog posts penned by Jamie:

How to Homeschool | Newtown | Steady Days Shine Your Light

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Episode 46: The Great American Clothing Fast

So many of us are careful consumers and stewards of the earth. We make sure to recycle, we purchase locally sourced—even organic—foods, and check products for BPA and red dye, but we often pay less attention to where our clothing comes from, who produces it, and what it's made of. Today, the co-hosts respond to Episode 41: The Management, Organization, & Coordination of Stuff and Why We'd Rather Eat Pie, in which Leslie and Tesi interview Jennie Barnds and discuss our consumer habits and the physical "stuff" that we all have so much of. The women talk about the KonMari Method of decluttering and take it a step further by exploring our spiritual relationship to physical things. In Episode 46, Tesi and Leslie continue the conversation and discuss Leslie's extreme response to a fantastic book. 

Published in 2012, Over-Dressed: The Shockingly High Cost of Cheap Fashion by Elizabeth L. Cline inspired Leslie to engage on a yearlong clothing fast. The women spend time talking about what she learned and offering tips to listeners who might be encouraged to take back the power of the purse and make big or small changes that impact their closets, peace of mind, and, ultimately, the world we live in.

When you know better you do better:

Interested in changing your consumer habits? Even one small change can make a huge difference! Here are a few tips in regards to wardrobe:

  1. Be intentional. Try not to make shopping a five-minute affair. Especially when you're a parent, it's important to plan, plan, plan your purchases.
  2. Shop your closet...and shop your friends' closet!
  3. Shop thrift and re-purpose (check out Refashionista for inspiration!)
  4. Own less, pay more ... in other words, buy quality items that will last forever!
  5. Buy wool or cotton and materials that are not oil dependent and are biodegradable
  6. Tailor your clothes to fit correctly

Learn more by following these LINKS mentioned in the podcast:

Over-Dressed: The Shockingly High Cost of Cheap Fashion by Elizabeth L. Cline

Jennie Barnds' Episode 45 on Mama Bear Dares | Episode 28 discusses the environmental impact of the agricultural industry worldwide

Leslie's article "Out of Fabric" in Radish Magazine | Leslie's Blog where she highlights her year of not buying clothing

Check out the documentary True Cost on Netflix!

Rent the Runway


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Episode 45: The Management, Organization, & Coordination of Stuff & Why We'd Rather Be Eating Pie

On Episode 45, Tesi and Leslie talk to Jennie Barnds, a mom-of-three with an interesting perspective on our tendency to collect material things and allow "stuff" to slowly take over our homes and lives. Jennie talks not only about literally cleaning a house, but also explores the metaphor of the space that things take up in our hearts and brains. Jennie shares her experience of following the very popular Marie Kondo method of tidying up, as well as her experience of organizing and cleaning her mother- and father-in-law's home shortly after her father-in-law's sudden death and her mother-in-law's subsequent move to assisted living. The three women dive into the questions that surround our American tendency toward excessive consumerism and explore its impact on the human soul ... and on the freedom of the next generation.

Also discussed on this episode:

  • The rub of letting go: Can we let go to our clothing, things, pictures, jobs, and relationships? What's the benefit of letting go? Is there ever a reason to hold on?
  • Other people's things: Can we form emotional attachments to other people's things? Should we?
  • There are ways that we can help our kids navigate a world focused on things. We can also encourage our parents and grandparents to come up with a plan for what happens to their treasures at the end of life. If not, it's possible to end up living in a museum.
  • The spirituality of "stuff": Can there be a spiritual connection to our things? WWJD with all of our things? What does Christ teach us about being men and women who live for others, not for things.
  • How to be a careful consumer of things and not burden the next generation by shackling them with our things or our obsession with stuff.

Obsess Sesh with Jennie Barnds:

The Outlander Series | Herr's Salt & Vinegar Chips | Chuck Taylors

    Links:

    Style blogger Yasi Beck's BLOG and her appearance on Episode 15 are referenced in the podcast.

    The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

    Cleaning House: A Mom's 12-Month Experiment to Rid Her House of Entitlement

    The Story of Stuff


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    Episode 41: A Swirly Mess of Beautiful with Mandy Arioto

    On Episode 41, Tesi and Leslie interview Mandy Arioto, the president and CEO of MOPS (Mothers of Preschool) International, who will release her debut book Starry-Eyed: Seeing Grace in the Unfolding Constellation of Life and Motherhood in August.

    Tesi and Leslie absolutely love the book and were delighted by their conversation with Mandy, a woman who is smart, sweet, vulnerable, and full of inspiration. Mandy believes in intentionally showing up in relationships (even when it's hard or uncomfortable) and leaning on one another in times of celebration and strife. And, much like Leslie and Tesi, she goes BIG to cultivate joy! The women discuss the ins and outs of motherhood (both the inherent joy and pain), the challenges of finding time to embrace the Other Self, and the amazing opportunity women have to influence the next generation of humans. Ultimately, all three women believe somethings fundamental: Moms are world changers!

    Other ideas discussed on the podcast:

    • Women are idea makers! How wonderful to be so fully and constantly alive in this world ... walking around with astoundingly creative brains! Tesi, Leslie, and Mandy discuss the ways in which big ideas play out in their lives and how it impacts partnership, parenthood, and the general dynamic of a household.
    • The “Me-Too” factor—it's essential to motherhood and to healthy community! Whatever you’re going through, the hosts and guests of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast want you to know that they've been there, too. You'll hear these women loud and clear, listeners. “ME. TOO.”
    • Mandy revealed great tips for combating mommy guilt, and the women discuss their disbelief in a perfectly balanced life. This portion of the conversation will encourage listeners to recognize and accept seasons of life rather than live in constant expectation of a "perfect balance."
    • The women challenge the cultural assumption that if things are HARD, it means that we're doing them WRONG. Rather, they postulate that life can be difficult and that wading through the hurt and sadness is necessary in order to once again experience joy. The women explore embracing personal pain and teaching kids how to embrace hurt in the hopes of growth and maturity.

    Here's where you can find Mandy:

    Order Mandy's fabulous new book, Starry-Eyed, Seeing Grace in the Unfolding Constellation of Life and Motherhood, HERE. It's so good!

    Check out Mandy's website for more of her!

    MOPS is a great organization. If you're mom seeking friendship and community, it's a great resource!

    Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

    Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

    Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much fun podcasting and really appreciate you listening!!

    Help support Mama Bear Dares by shopping with us! Here are our affiliate links:

    Do your Amazon shopping here. It costs you nothing and we get a bit of change from Amazon with each purchase! Yay!

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    Episode 40: On Privilege

    On Part 2 of our series exploring privilege, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie focus more on what privilege even means. We hear from Kait Klipsch (another Mama Bear sister!) on how she has seen her own privilege play out, as well as how easy it is to ignore it as part of your reality.

    The co-hosts also explore the disheartening injustices Kait has witnessed while working in the criminal justice system in Brooklyn, New York, with the aim to educate themselves and their listeners on how injustice happens everywhere, including in places like the Midwest.

    Today's episode expands on Episode 39, which released Monday, so please go back and listen for context. Tesi and Leslie hope this series with Kait will give Mama Bears the frame of reference they need when they hear current conversations surrounding the phrase "white privilege." After the deaths this week in America, everyone at Mama Bear Dares believe it's of the utmost important to unpack the phrase so that we can learn to live out our lives with compassion.

    PRIVILEGES DISCUSSED:

    • Coming from a family who had reliable housing, plenty of food, two parents and loving siblings. One that supported and encouraged and could also financially support one of its members if he/she fell onto hard times.
    • Seemingly straight identifying
    • Having a common name (Examples: Kait, Jennie, Cynthia, Mandy, Meg)
    • Being white
    • Choosing when you have sex and with whom
    • Positive encounters with police officers
    • Access to quality education, not just K-12 but also undergrad and graduate schools
    • Ability to leave a community that is not good for you financially, mentally, emotionally or spiritually
    • The idea that privileges build on one another to set you up for success long term

    OTHER IDEAS DISCUSSED ON THIS EPISODE:

    • Those with the least power tend to be the ones who are exploited the most
    • The power of a story
    • Is it worth it to know about your own privilege? To come face-to-face with it and realize even though you've worked really hard to get to where you are, there were other forces outside of that which benefit you? Is it worth it to fully realize those same forces hold back people without the same privileges? Is it worth it to know such these? And is it worth it to teach your kids?

    LINKS TO IDEAS DISCUSSED ON THIS EPISODE:

    Kait used to work for Brooklyn Justice Initiatives, part of the Center for Court Innovation in Brooklyn, NY.

    Kait currently works for STEPS to End Family Violence.


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    Episode 39: The Eye-Opening Power of Travel

    It has been a really intense week here in America. From Alton Sterling and Philando Castle to the five police officers in Dallas, this week has been seemingly consumed with death. If there has been one thing that is shared among Americans, it's grief.

    On Episode 39 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie welcome another sister-in-law, Kait Klipsch, to the conversation. Because of Kait's unique outlook on life and their shared interests, the women talked for more than 2 hours. In Part 1, the women deep dive into Kait's extensive experience in living and working in other countries. The women talk about how traveling to new worlds—whether it be across the world to Sri Lanka or across the city to the south side of Chicago—opens eyes to new realities and are so often worlds away from Kait's own experience as a white, upper-middle class woman.

    OTHER IDEAS DISCUSSED IN THE PODCAST:

    • What does it mean to work in an area that has virtually no privileges and then go home to your safe, warm, well fed house? How do you live in that tension?
    • How do we as Mama Bears allow our kids to learn these lessons of privilege while also watching them struggle with the reality? How do we watch them walk through it without trying to step in and save them from it? What value is there in our kids knowing the experiences of other races, cultures and countries?
    • Immigration. The false narrative that people immigrating to America would choose America over their own communities if there was enough work. Kait's experience in Mexico opened her eyes to the reality.
    • The idea of identity and how, in America, we are forced to create a singular identity. But when you travel in another country the people don't know your story and so you are free to just be who you are in that moment.
    • Communication. How even when we don't speak a common language, much can be communicated. The shared business of being human.

    FOR MORE INFORMATION, FOLLOW THE LINKS ALSO DISCUSSED IN THE PODCAST:

    The organization Kait worked for in Chicago was Heartland Alliance.

    The organization Kait worked for in Mexico was La Fundacion Comunitaria.

    The organization Kait worked for in Sri Lanka was Professional Psychological Counseling Center of Batticaloa.

    Episode 23: On Immigration, Compassion, and Complexity with Cynthia Vanderpool Garcia


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    Episode 35: Nothing of Value Separates Us

    On Episode 35 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie interview Tara Livesay, a native Minnesotan who has spent the last 10 years living with her family in Haiti. Tara is a mother (by birth and adoption), Certified Professional Midwife, blogger, and advocate for sustainable change throughout the developing world. She and the team at Heartline Ministries spend their days empowering, educating, and encouraging women in Haiti through relational midwifery and a focus on keeping first families together.

    Tesi and Leslie loved the time spent with Tara and were blown away by her vulnerability, bravery, and extraordinarily good humor. Listeners will enjoy hearing Tara's fascinating tales of worth, wisdom, and a life well-lived (in Haiti!)... and may even be inspired to think about social change and the ways that they can make waves in their own small corner of the world.

    Also discussed on the podcast:

    • A discussion of self worth: What stories do we tell ourselves about what we are and are not capable of? How do guilt and shame inform what's possible in the future?
    • The road to healing — counseling, speaking your truth, being in control of your own narrative
    • The complexity of adoption and its root in loss
    • What does it take to move a family to a developing nation? A discussion of language, community, and living through the unexpected (not to mention an earthquake!)
    • The act of writing as therapy, the responsibility of sharing the story of others, and the privilege of first-person reporting
    • The work of Heartline Ministries and the emphasis on orphan prevention and keeping first-families in tact through empowerment and education
    • The role of deep and trusting relationships during labor and delivery to promote safe birth. (Stayed tuned for Heartline expansion of relational midwifery!)
    • Orphanage tourism and the complex nature of compassion. Who benefits? Who is harmed?

    Links:

    Tara's Blog | Heartline Ministries | Donate to Heartline

    Listen to meditation coach Angie Sands in (Episode 31) .

    Empower Tanzania

    Momastery + Together Rising + Tara on Momastery

    Christian Missionary Alliance

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    Episode 33: Poetry for the People

    On Episode 33, co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle the topic of poetry in the modern world by interviewing award-winning poet and mother-of-two Aubrey Ryan. Aubrey shares her experience with poetry and the way it impacts her everyday, all the while helping to demystify the sometimes intimidating art form. The women spend an hour together admiring the poetry in our world while viewing it from unexpected angles: poetry as medicine, writing as healing, and verse as activism. Listeners will hear the words of poets who have you woven truths together and may pause to take in the power of language, lingering over the mystery and beauty of the ways that we, as human beings, communicate. Tesi, Leslie, and their guest talk about being alive to the extraordinary in the ordinary and then telling of the discovery in magnificent and creative ways. All of this to say, as Aubrey Ryan does in Episode 39, "Hey, world! Poetry is not hard!"

    Also discussed on this episode:

    • Poetry is democratic

    • Can poetry be medicine? How does it heal? Who does it heal?

    • Poetry as a response to societal ills and cultural happenings

    • How does one create a livelihood as an artist?

    • Hitting rock bottom and stepping back into the light

    • Types of poetry and the use of poetry as a tool of empowerment and social change

    OBSESS SESH:

    Medela Breast Pump | Cold Mountain | Taproot Magazine

    LINKS:

    At the beginning of the podcast, Leslie reads Late Hours by Lisel Mueller from Alive Together

    Gervase Kolmos and the "me too" factor can be found in Episode 27

    Where you can find Aubrey:

    Midwest Writing Center

    Check out Aubrey's chapbook of poems, published by Phantom Press: A Good Beast

    A list of poets mentioned:

    Mary Oliver | Rumi | Lin Manual Miranda | Nikki Giovanni (On Being Podcast) | Wendell Berry Gary Snyder | Bill Moyers | B.H. Fairchild | Jason Robert Brown


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    Episode 32: Summer & the War Against Manufactured Magic

    On Episode 32 co-hosts Leslie and Tesi dive into a topic near and dear to their hearts— the war against manufactured magic. It’s a Gladiator’s road to be sure, but today's episode tackles the idea that kids can make their own fun this summer and that women can release the pressure they may feel as moms to create constant joy, whimsy, and fun for them. We focus on a great article that appeared in The Huff Post in which writer and mother Bunmi Laditan says this:

    Parents do not make childhood magical. Abuse and gross neglect can mar it, of course, but for the average child, the magic is something inherent to the age. Seeing the world through innocent eyes is magical. Experiencing winter and playing in the snow as a 5-year-old is magical. Getting lost in your toys on the floor of your family room is magical. Collecting rocks and keeping them in your pockets is magical. Walking with a branch is magical.
    It is not our responsibility to manufacture contrived memories on a daily basis.
    — Bunmi Laditan

    The podcast opens with a celebration of Tesi's birthday and ends with a dare to let memories be made because you refuse to give into the pressures of the world and allow your kids experience magic on their own.

    Hey, Mama Bear! It’s your birthday!

    It’s Tesi’s birthday and she shares her hopes and dreams for her next year of life! Birthday wishes include: Continuing to chase our Mama Bear Dares Podcast dream, try to send time and getaway with Zach during their 14th year of marriage, embrace a slower summer and life in her new community.

    Summertime and the war against manufactured magic...We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss

    We discuss Bunmi Laditan's article, I'm Done Making My Kid's Childhood Magical, which we first came across on Huffington Post.

    Bunmi’s first book, The Honest Toddler: A Child’s Guide to Parenting, is sure to be wise and good!

    Here are some highlights of the conversation. Where do you fall on the issue of manufactured summertime magic?

    • My best parenting move is from the couch or the porch
    • We share childhood memories that were very simple, they weren’t manufactured for us! Tesi recalls a thrilling childhood—and she doesn’t remember seeing her mom during the day. (She was certainly not manufacturing magic.)
    • If it feels natural to you to create magic, then do it! But if it feels unnatural to you, don’t. Release the pressure of perfection!
    • We pose a few final questions from the article about childhood, magic, and where you stand on the relationship between the two...and ask our Mama Bear Community to answer online!

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    Episode 31: Meditation for the Curious Girl

    On Episode 31 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie interview meditation coach and mother of two, Angie Sands. Angie delights the co-hosts with her calm spirit and incredible bank knowledge about the age-old practice of meditation. The women discuss how the act of meditating has impacted their emotional lives and the way in which meditation impacts the development and maturation of the human brain. It's a fascinating conversation about a topic of curiosity for more and more moms in the trenches of parenthood.

    Also on this episode, Leslie and Tesi have fun exploring a new segment inspired by Angie called MAYBE IT'S MEDITATION during which they discuss the impact of meditation on their every day lives. Am I calmer in line at the grocery store? Are the clouds really that beautiful? Does meditation literally make my skin glow? The co-hosts wonder just how far meditation can take a person, and they want to hear from you about your own experiences or apprehensions! Finally, after a fruitful conversation with Angie, we hear about her current obsessions in the OBSESS SESH.

    Other topics discussed:

    • The remarkable brain science behind meditation
    • The benefits for kids who engage in a meditation practice
    • The idea that though many of our desires are externally driven, we have everything we need inside of us to feel peace and happiness. Meditation will help us unlock these joys!
    • The difference between meditation and mindfulness
    • The question of whether or not there is an element of privilege in the practice of meditation
    • How to get started with a meditation practice...perhaps it can be a way to nurture your Other Self!

    "I have so much to accomplish today that I must meditate for two hours instead of one." ~Ghandi

    OBSESS SESH with Angie Sands!

    Angie is currently obsessed with:

    Super foods (like these!) | Getting Rid of Stuff | Connection with Others

    Links:

    Here's where you can find Angie: Website | Facebook

    More information about SEED Meditation.

    Leslie's article about meditating with kids and Angie's tutelage can be found HERE.

    Check out the app HEADSPACE, which Tesi and Leslie first learned about on the Rich Roll Podcast.


    Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

    Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

    Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much podcasting and really appreciate you listening!!

    Help support Mama Bear Dares by shopping with us! Here are our affiliate links:

    Do your Amazon shopping here. It costs you nothing and we get a bit of change from Amazon with each purchase! Yay!

    Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

    Thanks to Wunderkind for the beats!