Episode 32: Summer & the War Against Manufactured Magic

On Episode 32 co-hosts Leslie and Tesi dive into a topic near and dear to their hearts— the war against manufactured magic. It’s a Gladiator’s road to be sure, but today's episode tackles the idea that kids can make their own fun this summer and that women can release the pressure they may feel as moms to create constant joy, whimsy, and fun for them. We focus on a great article that appeared in The Huff Post in which writer and mother Bunmi Laditan says this:

Parents do not make childhood magical. Abuse and gross neglect can mar it, of course, but for the average child, the magic is something inherent to the age. Seeing the world through innocent eyes is magical. Experiencing winter and playing in the snow as a 5-year-old is magical. Getting lost in your toys on the floor of your family room is magical. Collecting rocks and keeping them in your pockets is magical. Walking with a branch is magical.
It is not our responsibility to manufacture contrived memories on a daily basis.
— Bunmi Laditan

The podcast opens with a celebration of Tesi's birthday and ends with a dare to let memories be made because you refuse to give into the pressures of the world and allow your kids experience magic on their own.

Hey, Mama Bear! It’s your birthday!

It’s Tesi’s birthday and she shares her hopes and dreams for her next year of life! Birthday wishes include: Continuing to chase our Mama Bear Dares Podcast dream, try to send time and getaway with Zach during their 14th year of marriage, embrace a slower summer and life in her new community.

Summertime and the war against manufactured magic...We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss

We discuss Bunmi Laditan's article, I'm Done Making My Kid's Childhood Magical, which we first came across on Huffington Post.

Bunmi’s first book, The Honest Toddler: A Child’s Guide to Parenting, is sure to be wise and good!

Here are some highlights of the conversation. Where do you fall on the issue of manufactured summertime magic?

  • My best parenting move is from the couch or the porch
  • We share childhood memories that were very simple, they weren’t manufactured for us! Tesi recalls a thrilling childhood—and she doesn’t remember seeing her mom during the day. (She was certainly not manufacturing magic.)
  • If it feels natural to you to create magic, then do it! But if it feels unnatural to you, don’t. Release the pressure of perfection!
  • We pose a few final questions from the article about childhood, magic, and where you stand on the relationship between the two...and ask our Mama Bear Community to answer online!

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