Episode 26: Beyond the Resume

On this Mama Bear Mini, our mid-week episode, Tesi and Leslie talk about the quest for virtue and a life well lived in a segment called We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss. Here they tackle all kinds of questions about what it means to be a good person and how we might all seek to find the glow of selflessness. After a heavy and hopeful conversation, Tesi and Leslie dive into their very own Obsess Sesh!

We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss

Find the article discussed here: "The Moral Bucket List" by David Brooks, New York Times, essay adapted from his book The Road to Character.

Here are a few of the experiences highlighted on the way to the richest possible life. We encourage you to discover and dissect them all:

  1. The Humility Shift
  2. Self-Defeat
  3. The Dependency Leap
  4. Energizing Love
  5. The Call Within the Call
  6. The Conscience Leap
The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.
— Frederick Buechner, Wishful Thinking: A Theological ABC

Other books/resources mentioned:

The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving A F@*k by Sarah Knight

Everything by Brene Brown, but especially:

The Gifts of Imperfection | Daring Greatly | Rising Strong

Go back and check out our interview with Jody Landers. It's Episode 3: Doing it Scared on iTunes, Stitcher, or wherever you listen!

Thanks again to MCSquared for the beats!


OBSESS SESH:

There are so many cool things in the world! Here's what we're currently celebrating:

Tesi—

 Vimmia and Heather clothing (from Anthropologie) | Backpack lawn chairs | Kitten & Flower Boutique (Kalamazoo, MI)

Leslie—

Her front porch | Mark West Pinot Noir | Rifle Paper Co.


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Episode 24: Relationship Advice From Old Wives

On this Mama Bear Mini, our mid-week episode, we talk about keeping romantic relationships alive after kids enter the scene. Prompted by learning about the break-up of two great, previously betrothed authors mentioned in Episode 18, Tesi and Leslie come up with seven ways to enliven and nurture the relationships we have with the people who are the closest: our spouses/partners.

7 Simple Ways to Nurture Your Relationship After Kids :

1. Figure out each others' love languages and act on them. (We discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You can take the short quiz HERE. Also, check out The Five Love Languages of Children.)

2. Nurture your Other Self & support your partner in allowing him/her to nurture his/her Other Self.

3. Watch him/her doing something “in their element.”

4. Enjoy time together. Date night OUT or Date night IN—doesn't matter which.

5. Find something you can enjoy together outside of your kids. (For instance, biking, a TV show, walking the dog after the kids go to bed.)

6. Say thank you.

7. Say your partner’s name and acknowledge their humanity.


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Episode 8: No-Nonsense Parenting

There are certain middle-class rituals that are so ingrained in us that we don’t really even stop to question why we do them. On today’s Mama Bear Dares, we discuss many of these rituals surrounding everyday parenting decisions that end up occupying precious brain-space. For instance, in raising children one can easily get caught up in the herd and find yourself making non-essential purchases and spending time, money, and a certain effort that you might really want to spend elsewhere. “No-nonsense parenting” is in some ways self protection from our busy, more-plus-more-plus-more culture and in other ways a philosophy that aims to teach independence and responsibility. Listen in as the Mama Bears discuss...and then join the conversation!

SHOW NOTES:

If you live in the Quad Cities, you should check out Junior Theatre!

Today’s podcast is a short, 20-minute Mama Bear Dares episode and it begs for your feedback! Reach out on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know your reaction! In what ways are you a no-nonsense parent? In what ways do show your kids your tender loving care? How do you manage all the water bottles? (Leslie truly needs advice in this area.) We’d love to hear from you!

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Episode 7: The Flow of Generosity

Image by Molly Sabourin Photography

Image by Molly Sabourin Photography

It’s funny how things speak to us differently at different points in our lives. Some people hear a bit of wisdom and are changed forever, while others hear the same and remain untouched. Some of us walk right by potential, while others take pause and soak it up. In Zen philosophy it’s described like this: When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

In this episode of Mama Bear Dares, we spend time in conversation with Beth Johnson and explore her unique journey, considering the way each of us is shaped by people, our surroundings, and what we consume. Beth shares her story of small graces and quiet action, encouraging listeners as she reflects on pivotal moments and influences in her life, and reminding us to be thoughtful with our lives and open to generosity in it all its forms.

Show Notes:

You will love the poet Mary Oliver. All of her poems are amazing. If you’re looking for a place to start, we recommend this book.

An interesting look into Cabrini Green, upon its demolition.

Beth threw a “pretend” shower and the gifts went to the Humility of Mary.

Don’t forget about our giveaway! For a chance to win a basket full of Leslie and Tesi’s favorite fair trade items, subscribe to us on iTunes, rate us on iTunes, review us on iTunes, Like us on Facebook and Instagram, and follow us on Twitter. If you do all of the above, you’re entered SIX times! We will announce the winner Thursday on our social media outlets!

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Episode 4: Tackling "Man" Tasks

*Listen through to the end of this episode for information on our first giveaway!!!

On today’s podcast sisters-in-law Leslie and Tesi talk about dividing up household duties in an intentionally non-gendered way. Tesi discloses her rockstar ability to change the oil in her family van and the goal she has set for herself to learn how to do more tasks generally carried out by the men in her life. The women discuss car maintenance, hanging picture frames, producing a podcast, as well as the impact this way of approaching household chores has had on their spouses and their children.

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*Giveaway information: For a chance to win a box full of Leslie and Tesi’s favorite fair trade items, subscribe to us on iTunes, rate us on iTunes, review us on iTunes, Like us on Facebook and Instagram, and follow us on Twitter. If you do all of the above, you’re entered SIX times! We will announce the winner next week on our social media outlets!

This podcast is the first of many short, 20-minute Mama Bear Dares podcast episodes and each one produced begs for your feedback! Reach out on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know your reaction! How does your household work in terms of chore distribution? Is this something you think about? Do you know how to change the oil? What’s another “gendered” task that you or your partner completes that might turn some heads? We’d love to hear from you!

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SHOW LINKS:

Tesi’s “Man Task” Blog Post: http://tesiklipsch.com/2014/07/19/a-year-that-goes-beyond-diy/

Here’s Tesi’s tutorial on how to change your car’s oil: http://tesiklipsch.com/2014/09/02/3-wherein-i-learn-how-easy-and-deliciously-dirty-it-is-to-change-the-oil-in-my-car/

Jake’s post on Leslie’s Blog: http://farm-raised.blogspot.com/2011/09/home-improvement-with-jake.html

Link to post on Apartment Therapy: http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/reader-regrets-jakes-shortorder-door-202290

(Jake confirmed that he did indeed bake a cake after demolishing the door.)

And finally, Leslie wants listeners to know that she realizes that filling the tank to her van with gas is not a big deal and she has never expected a man to complete that task for her.