Episode 30: Gorilla, Rape Culture, and the Role of Parents

Tesi and Leslie get a little heated, a tiny bit soap box-y, and a whole lot passionate on Episode 30 in which they tackle the headlines. The women pause to consider the magnifying glass that was placed on the mother at the Cincinnati Zoo as her toddler tumbled into the ape enclosure and discuss how, as mothers, our generation can help put a stop to the rape culture that's all too prevalent in our country. As they discuss the zoo incident and the sentence just doled out to a rapist in California, the women try their best to navigate the incredibly difficult world we inhabit. Through their conversation they mince no words, but do their best to arrive at a place of productive rage and overall love.

Here is a brief description of the two items we discuss:

The Mom and the Toddler in the Gorilla Enclosure: At the Cincinnati Zoo last month a three-year-old climbed through a barrier and fell into a gorilla enclosure. After dragging the boy around for nearly 10 minutes, zoo staff shot and killed the gorilla. It became a huge controversy, many people blaming the mom of the young boy for not keeping a closer eye on him.

Brock Turner: A 20-year-old Stanford University student was found guilty in March and this week was sentenced to just six months in prison. Two male witnesses saw him raping an unconscious woman behind a dumpster and chased Turner down and held him there until police arrived. The judge's verdict explained that he was sentencing Turner to far less than the 14-year maximum essentially because it was a lapse in judgement and that he didn’t believe Turner was a threat to anyone. This judge was a Stanford graduate and there is now a petition to recall him.

Here are a few ways that moms (and dads) can help turn the tide of rape culture discussed on today's episode:

  • Talk to your kids about sex. It's awkward and embarrassing. Do it anyway.
  • Implement a firm "NO means NO policy" while rough-housing, tickling, wrestling, or any other physical play.
  • Encourage children to practice their "NO" out loud ... and then honor it.
  • Stop telling our daughters that "teasing" (pulling hair, pulling on clothing, chasing, etc., even if she doesn't like it) is a sign that someone "likes" you.
  • Stop assigning boyfriends/girlfriends to young children too young to be sexualized.
  • When age appropriate, talk about the definition of consent.
  • Discuss with your children the media's portrayal of criminals through images and the use of language in describing victims and perpetrators.
  • Notice, together with your children, how race and class distort our system of justice.

How to find hope, Mama Bears? Listen to the end of the episode for a list of what keeps Leslie and Tesi clinging to the idea that good can prevail.

Important links mentioned in the show:

Sign the petition to remove the judge of the Stanford rape trial from the bench HERE.

A response to the Gorilla story that resonates can be found HERE.

An article by Jessica Birthisel referenced within the podcast can be found HERE.

Amy Schumer's take on "GRAPE" here or Google it for other examples and explanations within interviews.

If you do nothing else, please read the response from the victim in this wretched case HERE. Such love and wisdom and strength and compassion.

We must hold the bible in one hand and the newspaper in the other. ~ This quote is widely attributed to Karl Barth

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Episode 29: All the Women Around the World

When Leslie, the co-host of the Mama Bear Dares, traveled to East Africa late last month with the NGO she contracts with, she realized she had a great opportunity to introduce listeners of the Mama Bear Dares podcast to a Tanzanian mother. Her international colleague at Empower Tanzania, new mom and program manager Efrancia Nzota, graciously agreed to be a guest on the show. After a long, hot day of training Maasai women as Community Health Workers, Leslie and Efra sat down at the Nzoroko Hotel restaurant, shared a Coke, and discussed the ways their lives as professionals and as mothers are similar and the ways in which they are different.

The conversation that listeners will listen in on in Episode 29 may point listeners to this: Our joys and triumphs as mothers and women are universal. We can sit with friends in our own communities and find out that we have much in common, and we can travel across the world, sit down with friends there, and learn the same thing. This transformative realization is one hosts Leslie and Tesi hope listeners will never look back from.

Leslie and Efra also discuss:

  • Efrancia's birth story
  • The challenges and joys of new motherhood in Tanzania
  • The Improving Women's Health Program that Efrancia manages for Empower Tanzania
  • The universality of the work/life balance and the struggle of caring for the Other Self

Links:

Check out Empower Tanzania and Empower Tanzania's health programs! Want to donate to Efra's program? Click here.

Jennie Peakin (Episode 11) took photos for Empower Tanzania. Follow her on Facebook for a peek!

Check out Malala's story: Memoir | Young Reader's Edition | Her Foundation

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Episode 28: Husbands, Brothers, & Kale

On Episode 28 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi talks to Leslie's husband Jake and her own husband Zach about embracing a plant-based diet while Leslie is in East Africa with the NGO she contracts with, Empower Tanzania. In this debut of male voices on the podcast, Tesi and the pair of brothers discuss their plant-based lifestyle, offer resources for those interested in learning more, and share anecdotes about how becoming vegan has impacted their health and their lives. Finally, in a nod to the ever-present phenomena of "Mommy Guilt," they tackle "Daddy Guilt" and try to determine whether or not it truly exists. (Hint: It does!)

Segments include When You Know Better, You Do Better and Things We Should Probably Feel Guilty About But Don't.

LINKS:

The Rich Roll Podcast

Further reading on processed meats as carcinogens.

Further reading on cancer and lifestyle choices.

Jake's carpentry skills can be revisited on Episode 4: Tackling Man Tasks and in this Blog Post

A Vitamix makes the plant-based lifestyle so much more appealing! It's miraculous!

Jonathan Safron Foer's Eating Animals is fantastic.

Learn more about John Joseph here: Book | Podcast with Rich Roll

Documentaries mentioned: Cowspiracy | Forks Over Knives | Food, Inc. | Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead

NY Times article on why dieting never works.

Meditation app Leslie and Tesi use.

Online yoga practice Jake uses.

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Episode 27: This is Going to End in Something Beautiful

On today's Mama Bear Dares episode, Leslie and Tesi interview the fabulous life-coach and founder of Shiny.Happy.Human Gervase Kolmos. The women dive into a conversation about the whole human experience and the flavor that motherhood brings to a life. All three are candid and honest about the ups and downs of raising tiny humans and its impact on life in the trenches of parenthood.

The conversation continues as Leslie and Tesi talk to Gervase about leading a life of celebration and taking the time to notice and applaud victories, both big and small. The women also dig into how to disappoint others honorably, the danger of capping joy, and the beauty of living a life of celebration. Overall, this honest conversation encourages listeners to live well and embrace this one incredible life!

Also discussed:

  • C.S. Lewis says this: “Friendship is born at the moment that one person says to another, ‘What? You too? I thought I was the only one!” Gervase calls this the “Me Too Factor” and explains exactly what she means and how this plays out for new moms. It's a way to drop the façade of perfection and express to others that we’re all in this together.
  • Gervase talks about giving birth and three months later going back work. She realized shortly after that something wasn’t right. After seeing a therapist, she could see that she was suffering from postpartum depression. She helps listeners understand what postpartum is, how to identify when it’s time to reach out for help, and why the stigma surrounding mental health can be dangerous for new moms.
  • All three women are pro therapy! Find yourself one and start today! Or find a modern mystic, a spiritual advisor, or a life coach. There are many people who can help you be your best.
  • Gervase talks about the importance of a Soul Tribe and how important it is to surround yourself with a community that loves and supports you. The women discuss how to find this tribe and what it looks like in their lives.
  • Leslie and Tesi talk about how Gervase decided to let go of the perception of what success looks likes and dove into sharing the full spectrum of what she was experiencing within the rich experience of motherhood. ShinyHappyHuman was born!
  • The women talk about a redefinition of self-care to include the mind, spirit, body, and soul. Pedicures are great, but what else might we do to take care of ourselves?

Obsess Sesh:

Gervase shares her current love of the following:

·      Yogurt parfaits (Greek yogurt, jam, walnuts)

·      The Snoogle

·      The power and intrigue of crystals

Here's where you can find Gervase:

ShinyHappyHuman.com

A special invite to Mama Bear Dares Listeners! Join the Mommy Soul Tribe private Facebook group by clicking here!

Follow her on social media: FB, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube

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Episode 26: Beyond the Resume

On this Mama Bear Mini, our mid-week episode, Tesi and Leslie talk about the quest for virtue and a life well lived in a segment called We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss. Here they tackle all kinds of questions about what it means to be a good person and how we might all seek to find the glow of selflessness. After a heavy and hopeful conversation, Tesi and Leslie dive into their very own Obsess Sesh!

We Read It, We Loved It, Let's Discuss

Find the article discussed here: "The Moral Bucket List" by David Brooks, New York Times, essay adapted from his book The Road to Character.

Here are a few of the experiences highlighted on the way to the richest possible life. We encourage you to discover and dissect them all:

  1. The Humility Shift
  2. Self-Defeat
  3. The Dependency Leap
  4. Energizing Love
  5. The Call Within the Call
  6. The Conscience Leap
The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.
— Frederick Buechner, Wishful Thinking: A Theological ABC

Other books/resources mentioned:

The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving A F@*k by Sarah Knight

Everything by Brene Brown, but especially:

The Gifts of Imperfection | Daring Greatly | Rising Strong

Go back and check out our interview with Jody Landers. It's Episode 3: Doing it Scared on iTunes, Stitcher, or wherever you listen!

Thanks again to MCSquared for the beats!


OBSESS SESH:

There are so many cool things in the world! Here's what we're currently celebrating:

Tesi—

 Vimmia and Heather clothing (from Anthropologie) | Backpack lawn chairs | Kitten & Flower Boutique (Kalamazoo, MI)

Leslie—

Her front porch | Mark West Pinot Noir | Rifle Paper Co.


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Episode 25: #SkinSuit

On this episode of Mama Bear Dares, Leslie and Tesi talk to the lovely Denise Cartright about how to keep our #skinsuit (aka your skin) healthy and glowing! Denise is a master esthetician and founder/owner of Crude Personal Care, a cutting edge oil-cleansing skin system. Denise educates listeners on the skin biome and asks us to turn our attention inward so our exterior can shine and our whole beings can thrive. We also discuss how Crude was born—a fascinating tale of entrepreneurship, risk, and the power of one. This episode aims to talk about the practical matter of skin, but as we often find, it's not really about what's on the outside. We are complex beings with beautiful stories to spin!

Leslie and Tesi also discuss travel during this episode, prompted by an invitation by Denise to visit Salt Lake City! When this episode was recorded, Tesi was packing for the Kentucky Derby and Leslie was preparing for a trip to Tanzania with the organization Empower Tanzania. She's traveling with Mama Bear photographer Jennie Peakin (Episode 13). What's on your travel bucket list?


LINKS:

Empower Tanzania (FB | Website)

Here are a few articles Leslie has written about skincare and healthy living for Radish Magazine:

Lotions/Cosmetics | Lip Balm | DIY Sugar Scrubs

Follow this link for information on the "no-poo method" and learn how to save time and treat your hair better.

Tesi and Leslie both love Thrive Market and find great savings there on natural skincare and other products.

A few of our favorite health/skin related products available on Amazon:

Acure Lotions | Pacifica Perfume | Burt's Bees Lipstick | Alba Deep Conditional Hair Mask

Interested in learning more about a natural, no-soap approach? Here's a great article that Denise references in the New York Times entitled My No-Soap, No-Shampoo, Bacteria-Rich Hygiene Experiment.

Love sister-collaboration? You can find Denise's sister HERE and HERE.

Denise loves the Tara Brach podcast. Find it HERE.

OBSESS SESH:

Here's what Denise is loving these days:

  • Natural wine
  • Broad City
  • Ralph Waldo Emerson, in particular the essay entitled Nature

And, of course, visit the CRUDE Website. You'll love what Denise and her team have created.


As always, special thanks to Wunderkind for the music featured on Episode 27!

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Episode 24: Relationship Advice From Old Wives

On this Mama Bear Mini, our mid-week episode, we talk about keeping romantic relationships alive after kids enter the scene. Prompted by learning about the break-up of two great, previously betrothed authors mentioned in Episode 18, Tesi and Leslie come up with seven ways to enliven and nurture the relationships we have with the people who are the closest: our spouses/partners.

7 Simple Ways to Nurture Your Relationship After Kids :

1. Figure out each others' love languages and act on them. (We discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You can take the short quiz HERE. Also, check out The Five Love Languages of Children.)

2. Nurture your Other Self & support your partner in allowing him/her to nurture his/her Other Self.

3. Watch him/her doing something “in their element.”

4. Enjoy time together. Date night OUT or Date night IN—doesn't matter which.

5. Find something you can enjoy together outside of your kids. (For instance, biking, a TV show, walking the dog after the kids go to bed.)

6. Say thank you.

7. Say your partner’s name and acknowledge their humanity.


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Episode 23: On Immigration, Compassion, & Complexity

On this episode of Mama Bear Dares, Leslie and Tesi talk to Cynthia Vanderpool Garcia about immigration, advocacy, and neighborliness. Cynthia, mom to two young children and an immigration lawyer, explains what it's like to be on the front lines of immigration in America. Together, we dig into the immigration process, compassion fatigue, and the complexities of life in America. Cynthia offers a look into a fascinating world, gently educating us and encouraging us to live our lives well.

Other points discussed:

  • Body image after childbirth
  • Her journey and the draw to immigration law
  • The very real perils of compassion fatigue
  • The necessity of Mama Bear boundaries
  • Immigration in the current political landscape
  • A breakdown of immigration and a simplified answer to the question, How does it work?
  • Are community and connection antidotes to fear and rhetoric?
  • How do you begin to know your neighbor?

LINKS:

The novel Americannah, written by the fabulous Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, is a fantastic depiction of an immigration experience in our current culture. Read it! :-)

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichies has a few great Ted Talks. Click here to view a favorite!

Episode 17

Vanderpool Garcia Law Firm

Episode 3

American Immigration Lawyers Association

Cynthia mentions reading The Enchantress of Florence. You can find it HERE.

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Episode 22: Stop Interrupting Me

On Episode 22 of Mama Bear Dares, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie riff on an article about the power dynamics of language in relation to gender. After discussing ten words that we should teach our daughters to say comfortably in conversation, they take questions from the Mama Bear Community and do their best to answer from the heart. They encourage you to recognize the power of your own voice and use your Mama Bear strength to assert your words in the world.

We read it, We loved it, Let's discuss

We discussed the ten words every girl should know:

“Stop interrupting me.” / “I just said that.” / “No explanation needed.”

You'll find links to the article by Soraya Chemaly in the following locations:

Amy Poehler's Smart Girls FB page

Role Reboot

The Huffington Post

Reppin the MBC on the MBD

Tesi and Leslie tackle versions of the following listener questions. Three great books are mentioned, they are:

Lean In | A Path Appears | Half the Sky

As a husband to a woman and a man raising a daughter, as well as a man in a top level position in his company, I was really floored by this article. I didn’t realize the truth of the article until I really looked at my own experience in the corporate world and the space in which my wife and daughter occupy. I believe everything the article says but am wondering, other than teaching my daughter to say “stop interrupting me”, “I just said that”, etc., how else can I help?

and

I’ve seen every one of these scenarios play out in my own life. But I feel like I’m just getting started on my own journey into speaking up for myself, how in the world do I start encouraging my daughter to do it when I hardly feel strong enough for myself?”

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Here's what Tesi's buying...

Leslie's just bought this watch!

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Episode 21: Light and Love

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Ashley Summers, the woman behind the fantastic clothing line The Homemade Kid, could not be more delightful. You'll meet her during this episode of Mama Bear Dares and will be instantly charmed. Not only is she giving away a Mama Bear t-shirt (stay until the end to learn how to win!), but she opens up about her experience of birthing a daughter and a business within two weeks of one another, what inspires her, and her life on the West Coast. Tune in as Tesi and Leslie ask Ashley about her work, her family, and her fabulous self!

In this episode, we also talk about:

  • The birth of a business and a baby. This topic leads us to the question: What are YOU capable of?
  • Ashley's awesome ability to prioritize and live with PEACE about her choices.
  • Ashley's lightness! Our Friday night fun!
  • We also discuss Ashley's practiced eye for beautiful things and her company's cute designs.

Obsess Sesh!

Tesi and Leslie are obsessed with The Homemade Kid. Here's what Ashley is currently loving:

Birch Box

Her Ninja Coffee Maker

Spoon Flower Fabrics

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Leslie is currently reading Wearing God, by Lauren Winner. You might like it!

Episode 20: Mother's Day Mini—Let's Talk to Kids!

On this Mama Bear Mini, our mid-week episode, we talk about Mother's Day, interview our kids, and encourage YOU to do the same! As we celebrate nurturing women this week, we dare listeners to take a moment to be really proud of who you are as a mom or to cheer on the mom you will someday become. Regardless of what motherhood looks like for you, we think you're amazing!

Questions for the kids:

Here's the script we used to interview our kids. Feel free to use it however you please!

  • What is your favorite thing to do with me?
  • What is something I’ve said to you that has helped you in the past? A bit of wisdom that you think about even when I’m not there?
  • How would you describe me? Is there something about me that would surprise other people to know?
  • On the Mama Bear Dares podcast we encourage moms to be their very best selves. Can you think of a way I can support you better? How can I be a better mom to you?
  • Who is your best friend? What is it about this friend that makes them so great? What’s it like to see your mom with her friends? What do they do? How do they act?
  • You have a lot of aunts and grandmas in this life. This is really special. What do you like about having all of these women who love you so much?
  • Currently, what's your favorite thing to do? What are you obsessed with?

We want to hear from YOU!! We encourage all of you to sit down with your kids and ask these questions and record them!!! You don’t need high tech equipment, there are plenty of free apps that will record audio. Download one of those and carve out some time to talk with your kids and then send us the audio file! In a future Mama Bear Mini we will include some of our favorites! Email us at mamabeardares@gmail.com.

Special thanks to MC Squared for the music for today's episode!

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Episode 19: Beauty is Yours to Behold

On this episode of Mama Bear Dares, Tesi and Leslie interview Meg Duerksen, the woman behind the wildly popular WHATEVER blog and the owner of the adorable and brilliant Craft House. The women talk about the search for beauty in a sometimes difficult world, the ins and outs of blogging, and the importance of sacred community. The episode ends with a peek into Meg's life by exploring three things she's currently obsessed with.

You can find Meg on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and, of course, on her BLOG.

We spoke about The Adventure Project, one of our favorite organizations.

OBSESS SESH:

Meg is currently obsessed with black coffee, these jeans, and a lovely little cow bust that used to belong to Meg's grandmother.

PINTERESTING, VERY PINTERESTING:

Here's what Tesi is pinning: Vegan Peanut Cup Butter Pie

Here's what Leslie is pinning: This quote

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Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much podcasting and really appreciate you listening!!

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Episode 18: It Takes Guts to Trust Your Gut

On this Mama Bear Mini, our mid-week episode, we discuss being an advocate for your health and listening to your body in our segment "Let's talk about health, baby." Tesi shares a recent health development and encourages listeners to value themselves enough to nurture their body when it breaks. We also tackle a new recipe on "When you know better, You do better" and conclude with a fan favorite, "Things We Should Probably Feel Guilty About, But Don't."

Today we dare listeners to take their health into their own hands. Give yourself that breast exam; learn to listen to every ache and pain. Tesi and Leslie don’t want to encourage you to fight death or aging tooth and nail, but they DO want to encourage you to embrace the one body you get in this lifetime and to take care of it the way your Mama Bear takes care of the children, pets, and favorite people in your life.

Let's talk about health, baby:

Tesi tells listeners about a recent health event in her life. Episode 12 (On Obsessions, Allergies, and Being Brave) is referenced. Find it HERE.

When you know better, you do better:

We encourage you to shake things up in the kitchen and embrace Meatless Monday...on any day of the week! You can find the fantastic Mac-n-Cheese recipe (it's vegan and plant-based!) we discuss in the show HERE.

Documentaries we discuss:

Cowspiracy

Forks Over Knives

Food, Inc.

Books we discuss:

We enjoy anything by Michael Pollan. Start with this one.

We also love Eating Animals by Jonathan Safran Foer and a book called The History of Love by Nicole Krauss.

Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much podcasting and really appreciate you listening!!

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Do your Amazon shopping here. It costs you nothing and we get a bit of change from Amazon with each purchase! Yay!

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Episode 17: The Search for Faith, Love, & Justice

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On this episode of Mama Bear Dares, Leslie and Tesi talk to Sara Olson-Smith about faith, community, what it’s like being a woman with influence, and social activism. Sara, mom to two young children and pastor of a large church, tells us what it feels like to be called to be a truth-teller and how her faith plays a huge role in her life. Together, we dig into how to respond to a broken world and how to find hope at the end of each day. Listeners will love hearing from Sara as she shares her appreciation and hopes for the church—and for all of humanity—as a body of witness.

Other points discussed:

  • A response to a world in crisis
  • Hopes and fears of practicing a Christian faith in this world
  • Sara’s journey to becoming who she is today
  • Women in ministry
  • Sara’s take on corporate worship
  • Advice to those who want to become an ally to the disenfranchised

LINKS:

Click here to read Tesi’s blog post about what she feels about being Christian and finding a community of worship.

All three of us love the podcast Another Round, check it out HERE.

Here’s where Sara serves as a pastor.

Obsess Sesh:

A few things that Sara is loving right now:

Wireless Bluetooth headphones that she can wear while moving about and listening to Hamilton!

Maisie Dobbs mystery series

Brene Brown's eCourse

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Episode 16: The Dynamic Power of Womanhood & Finding Your Tribe

On this Mama Bear Mini, our mid-week episode, we discuss a few quotes from a book we love called Nice Girls Don’t Change the World in our segment called “We read it, We loved it, Let’s discuss…” We also tackle an article about the power of community and female friendship that a Mama Bear Dares listener shared with us and that we just love.

Today we dare listeners to think about the power of the friendship in their lives and challenge them to nurture these friendships, not just for the health and wellness benefits, but because we need our girlfriends and they need us. We ask that immaturity and pettiness be banished from getting in the way of relationships and that our listeners strive toward womanhood and yield the power held within: the power of clarity, wisdom, and experience.

WE READ IT, WE LOVED IT, LET’S DISCUSS:

The conversation at the center of Episode 16 is based from the following:

Find Lynne Hybels book Nice Girls Don't Change the World HERE.

Find the article from Uplift, WHY WOMEN NEED A TRIBE by Tanja Taljaard, HERE.

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Episode 15: Nerdy by Nature, Internal Work, & the Question of Puffy Vests

Yasi Back is an epidemiologist by day and style blogger by night. She is the woman behind Hello, Gorgeous, a hugely popular fashion blog that she has curated from her home home in Michigan for the last half decade. She opens up to Mama Bear Dares listeners on her love of fashion, her investment in her community, and the importance of honoring yourself and your priorities. She also offers solid advice to listeners about wearing what works for you and she makes an important announcement about her work. Yasi is such a pleasure! You can find here on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and, of course, on her blog.

Here are a few of the highlights from our discussion with Yasi:

  • The keys to personal style
  • Body acceptance
  • Ever-evolving fashion
  • Style bloggers for the average cat, the working woman, and the mom who stays at home
  • Disordered eating and the power of writing as a healing mechanism
  • Beyonce
  • And...Yasi makes a big announcement

OBSESS SESH:

We love hearing what our guests are currently into. Here's Yasi's list:

  1. Books: Yasi has been reading The Summer Girls trilogy and recently finished The Perfume Collector.
  2. Sparkling Water! Be like Yasi and ask your guests if they prefer "sparkling or still"! Check out the soda stream HERE. (Yasi has actually yet to use it for its intended purpose, which is soda!)
  3. Glassware: Yasi is loving the Soma filter, this water bottle, and this glass Snapware.

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Episode 14: Mommy Guilt No More!

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Last week we asked our Mama Bear Community what they think of when they hear the phrase “Mommy Guilt” and we received some great feedback that we share and respond to on Episode 14 of Mama Bear Dares.

Mommy Guilt is a phrase that our culture is way too familiar with. But why?

Leslie and Tesi tackle the topic today revealing their own experiences with Mommy Guilt and disclosing moments when they are plagued and moments when they refuse to let the feeling steal their joy.

We also introduce a few new segments we think you can get down with: Reppin the MBC on the MBD and Things We Should Probably Feel Guilty About But Don’t.

Segment 1: Reppin the MBC on the MBD! (In other words, Reppin the Mama Bear Community on Mama Bear Dares!)

After discussing listener comments, we offer a bit of dialogue on how we’re trying to eradicate Mommy Guilt from our lives. Here are a few highlights:

  • Make sure it’s guilt and not shame. There’s a difference!
  • Let some things go. Evaluate what you’re feeling guilty about — is it worth it?
  • Recognize that parenting is not a competitive sport
  • Prioritize the enjoyment of the parenting experience NOT the enjoyment of your child
  • Set aside specific time just for the family

Segment 2: Things we should probably feel guilty about, but don’t!

Leslie and Tesi bare their soul in a nod to the fact that no one is perfect! This begs listener feedback: Share with us! What do you do that you DON’T feel guilty about? Do tell!

We mention the following on the podcast:

Whether you’re in sub-saharan Africa or the middle of Michigan, you might need this: Instant Immersion Portable Heater

Read all of Brene Brown’s books. Do it. (She researches shame and guilt in the most accessible, thought-provoking way!) Start HERE, then go HERE, and end HERE.

And don’t forget that we’re online. Here’s where you can find us:

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much podcasting and really appreciate you listening!! Follow this LINK for a step-by-step tutorial of how to rate and review Mama Bear Dares. Thank you!


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Do your Amazon shopping here. It costs you nothing and we get a bit of change from Amazon with each purchase! Yay!

Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares. Tesi recommends reading Girl on The Train. Leslie loves Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In.

Episode 13: Friendship, Fashion, and the Female Body

On this episode of Mama Bear Dares, Leslie and Tesi talk to the lovely Sarah Wenger about the female body. Sarah, mom to three with a fourth on the way, opens up to us from her home in Colorado about her career as a model and about what it was like growing up in a family and community where no one else looked quite like her. Together, we dig into body image, the power of our physical selves, and aging gracefully. Listeners will love hearing about Sarah’s journey of self acceptance, will relate to her strong need for community, and will be fascinated by Sarah’s insights into not just the fashion industry, but the ways in which our physical shapes impact our daily lives.

Mama Bears, we know just how hard it can be to be a woman in our culture. The expectations on our physical bodies, the objectification, and the pressures of aging in a culture that often does not value aging—specifically for women. We want to hear from YOU. What is it like being a woman for you? We aim to do a mid-week Mama Bear Mini on this subject and want to include some of your thoughts. Hit us up on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or on our email (mamabeardares@gmail.com) and tell us your story. We want to hear from you!
 

LINKS:

Find more of Sarah on the Colorado Springs Moms Blog!

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Episode 12: On Obsessions, Allergies, and Being Brave

On this podcast we dig into a variety of topics on our Mama Bear Mini mid-week episode! We talk about our current favorite things, we offer some tips about nutrition and how to keep your family healthy over allergy season, and we discuss a pretty great article about raising daring girls. We also get down to the business of bravery and we try some new music for your listening pleasure. Don't forget to respond to this episode with your own tips, tricks, and interests du jour on any of our social media channels. We love hearing from you! Have a great week Mama Bears!

LINKS:

OBSESS SESH:

Check out Tesi’s endorsement of Yeti HERE.

Leslie is loving Rob Bell’s new book, HOW TO BE HERE.

Tesi got a fab new raincoat!

LET’S TALK ABOUT HEALTH, BABY:

Who doesn't love the Neti Pot ?

Dawson Chiropractic. Check them out on the web-they've got great videos on health and wellness too!

WE READ IT, WE LOVED IT, LET’S DISCUSS:

10 Ways to Raise Brave Girls, by Katie Arnold, Outside Magazine

The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure, by Caroline Paul

Article by Caroline Paul in the NYTimes: Why do we teach girls that it’s cute to be scared?

Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much podcasting and really appreciate you listening!!

Episode 11: Embracing the Yes

What kind of woman says “yes” to becoming a foster care parent? What kind of woman says “yes” to adopting a child with known special needs? What kind of woman says "yes" to laughter, love, and generosity over and over again?

On today's Mama Bear Dares, you'll hear our interview with Jennie Peakin, a woman whose steady “yes” has changed her life in profound ways. A photographer by trade, we have a fascinating conversation with Jennie about art, photography, the miracle of making a family—by both birth and adoption—and experiencing it all from both behind a lens and up close and personal.

Jennie shares her story as a woman, mother, and artist and we love her candor. Listen in and be inspired by her honesty, learn from her bravery, and delight in her authenticity. Follow Jennie’s lead and be open to the world. And then let us know...where does your “yes” take you?

LINKS:

Jennie’s Photography: WEB | Facebook

Jennie’s Wedding Photography: WEB | Facebook

Jennie on Pinterest

On Episode 10 we talk about fostering and adoption. Here are a few great websites with more information:

Foster care in Iowa: Iowa Kids Net 

Domestic Adoption: Adopt US Kids

Jennie and Leslie will be traveling to to Tanzania on a storytelling mission with Empower Tanzania.

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xo, Tesi & Leslie