Episode 81: Chocolate and Chips: Talking to Girls on the Precipice of Puberty

On Episode 80 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Leslie and Tesi gave listeners an intimate conversation about shame and self worth with author, mother, and all-around-wise-woman Aubrey Sampson. Based on listener feedback, it was clear that the themes of this podcast resonated: Shame. Our female bodies. How we can love them better and how we might teach our daughters to be empowered in their skin and have a healthy outlook on the human body they were born in. These themes are crucial and the women behind the podcast quickly decided they deserve a follow-up Mama Bear Mini.

On Episode 81, Tesi and Leslie dive deeper into the cultural relationship to the female body and give listeners suggestions on how to promote healthy body image in their home. The two base their conversation on Tesi’s powerful blog post, “An Open Letter to My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty,” and discuss body image, the beautiful attributes of femininity, the power of body language, sex, intimacy, and womanhood, all in hopes of shining the light on shame and furthering the conversation.

We had the conversation we often have when we pass magazines of women tucked, airbrushed and whitened. The idea that she will feel pressure to look a certain way or act a certain way is not new to Dailah because, like me, she is constantly watching and feeling. My conversations with Dailah have morphed from the ‘there is no one way to look or to be healthy and confident and beautiful’ to ‘listen to your gut, don’t drown out that voice inside that tells you the world is wrong or that you’re too much of anything.’
— Excerpt from Tesi's blog post, "To My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty"

LINKS:

Read Tesi's original blog post HERE.

Listen to Episode 22: Stop Interrupting Me HERE.

Listen to Episode 80: Shame is Loud, Truth is Louder with Aubrey Sampson HERE.


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Episode 77: Fall Fashion with Yasi Back

On Episode 77 of the Mama Bear Dares podcasts, Tesi and Leslie speak to stylist, fashion blogger, and entrepreneur Yasi Back about the latest trends. All three agree that it's fun to dress up and look cute, and Yasi delivers tips to moms who want to look good but who might not have the brain space for a detailed wardrobe. The conversation is light and fun...and offers a sneak peek of the dream that Yasi is following! Listen in for a great conversation and to be inspired by Yasi's fashion know-how and her leap of faith!

LINKS:

Did you like what you heard from Yasi? Follow her online or shop her boutique!

Facebook | Instagram | Blog | Boutique | Twitter

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Episode 73: 10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

On Episode 73 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss privilege, racism, and 10 ways they believe white moms can use their privilege to fight racism and spread love. They trust that the podcast community is a safe place to express their observations, experiences, and beliefs about this topic and humbly ask readers to consider their perspective, poke holes in their theories, and promise to journey together to make a better tomorrow. Lovers of actionable steps and lists, Leslie and Tesi come up with 10 tangible ways to engage their Mama Bear in this fight. The 10 steps are listed below; for complete details and explanation, listen in!

10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

  1. Acknowledge your privilege
  2. Learn about implicit bias and examine how it plays out in your life
  3. Listen and learn from those to whom the experience belongs
  4. Amplify the voices of people of color
  5. Talk to your kids, your neighbor, the mail carrier, and your mom about why Black Lives Matter movement matters
  6. Teach your kids that skin color matters
  7. Be a co-conspirator
  8. Advocate for diversity in your life
  9. Pronounce your kids’ friends name’s correctly
  10. Avoid sing racially coded language at home and in conversation

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Episode 71: Let's Lighten Up

It's been getting a little hot in here. Tesi and Leslie have recorded a string of Mama Bear Minis focusing on the hard work of marriage, on the rampant rape culture prevalent here in the U.S.A., and how racism plays out in our homes and our responsibility as Mama Bears to do our best to squash it. Because of the serious nature of these episodes, the hosts decided they needed a little break from the intensity and talk about lighter fare on Episode 71, specifically, books, television, and food. Listen in as they do their best to embrace a little levity.

Books

Leslie's reading Wonder Women: 25 Innovators, Inventors, and Trailblazers Who Changed History and a magazine called Breathe (and Make Time for Yourself).

Tesi just started The Leftovers, a novel by Tom Perrotta.

Television

Listen in to hear what Leslie and Tesi are watching AND to learn the identity of the one and only celebrity Tesi has ever felt moved to tweet at!

Food

Leslie's been loving sweet potatoes. Here are a few ways to cook and eat them.

Tesi's latest "company" dinner (the meal she serves to guests!). Listen in for details, but start the sauce here: Peanut Butter Tofu Sauce: 1 C brown sugar, 1 C soy sauce, 1 C peanut butter, 2 tsp chili garlic sauce. Combine with tofu and then toss with pasta or long grain rice.

Tesi's favorite TV-watching snack is Smart Pop!

LINKS to articles mentioned in DARE

How America Outlawed Adolescence | When the World is An Arcade


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Episode 69: How to Survive 14 Years of Marriage

It's one thing to stand at the altar dressed in your very best and tie the knot with your beloved in front of family and friends. It's another to live with your betrothed day in and day out for the next 14...25...50 years. On Episode 69 of the Mama Bear Dares podcasts, the hosts speak honestly about what marriage requires of two individuals hoping to make a life together. They sort through gender differences, how a union can become complicated by changes (jobs and kids, to name a few), and the enormous and unavoidable impact that the American culture has on the way we marry and (do our best to) stay married. It's a complex partnership that can be beautiful, but that is not always all that sexy. Co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle these ideas and then jump into a special marriage edition of a fan-favorite: Things We Should Probably Feel Guilty About But Don't.

LINKS:

Tesi's blog post about marriage

Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango


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Episode 66: 5 Steps to Publishing Your Book, Pursuing Your Passion, & Following Your Dreams

On this Mama Bear Mini, co-hosts Leslie and Tesi announce the winner of the bundle of Leslie's new release, Mama Bear's Manifesto: A Moms' Group Guide to Changing the World. After celebrating this listener and her thoughtful comment, the women discuss Leslie's publishing journey in depth, pulling out five steps that might make listeners a bit closer to publishing their book, pursuing their passion, or following their dream. The hosts encourage listeners who have ideas for books, blogs, or businesses, but have yet to put pen to paper. Always encouragers, Tesi and Leslie hope listeners will learn from Leslie's journey and embrace their own exciting pursuit!

WE HAVE A WINNER!

Thanks to everyone who commented on iTunes in hopes of winning a bundle of Leslie's new book, Mama Bear's Manifesto: A Moms' Group Guide to Changing the World. Here's what our winner, 44bot, has to say about the podcast. We appreciate these words so much!

Each time I tune in to the Mama Bear Dares podcast I feel “these ladies are my tribe.” Not only do I learn something new, I also feel a renewed sense of who I am in all the many role in which I live. I feel that by simply tuning in I am in touch with how I choose to walk in the world! Thank you, Leslie & Tesi!

FIVE STEPS TO PUBLISHING, PURSUING, & FOLLOWING:

Five years ago Leslie decided to write a book. The muse struck and for the next year she wrote...and wrote...and wrote. She then entered the world of publishing and learned a lot about marketing, platform building, patience, and leaning into the long-game. For details, be sure to listen to the episode, but here we offer the five basic steps to publishing your book, pursuing your passion, and following your dreams.

  1. Listen for the muse and then do it for LOVE
  2. Create a quality product
  3. Build your platform
  4. Release the art...and your expectations
  5. Throw yourself a party (celebrate small victories)

HELPFUL LINKS FOR ASPIRING AUTHORS

Leslie is represented by MacGregor Literary, check out their BLOG.

THIS is a good read. | This BOOK is a must for writing a book proposal.


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Episode 62: The Clarity & Freedom of Organizing The F Drawer

It's easy to fall victim to our inability to live an authentic life simply by giving up our agency and forgetting that we're the ones steering the ship. Whether it's because we're trying to please someone, we're trying to protect or bolster our reputation, or we just don't know how to say no, so often we end up going places that we have no desire to be, engaging in battles that ultimately don't matter, and spending precious energy on things that are soul-sucking. Co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle these ideas in a segment called We Read, We Loved It, Let's Discuss and then jump into a new segment called We See You, which is a celebration of modern-day motherhood and the ways that so many are wearing it with incredible grace and gusto. 

WE READ IT, WE LOVED IT, LET'S DISCUSS

In this portion of the Mama Bear Mini, co-hosts discuss the book The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want To Do by Sarah Knight. The women discuss the need to do internal work in order to live the life we want. They envision tidying up their "mental F drawers," as Knight suggests, and prioritizing things, people, and activities in order to steer the ship that is life. Tesi and Leslie discuss their "F drawers" and "F budgets," organizing and prioritizing in hopes for healthier relationships and richer lives.

In an extension of this conversation, Leslie and Tesi discuss the opportunity as Mama Bears to drawhard-lines and organize our collective Mama Bear "F drawers" in hopes of more peace and less judgement between moms. For instance, child birth. It's hard to judge a natural birth vs. an epidural when you don't give an F.

For your reference: Buy The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F#*k HERE. Listen to Episode 45 about The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

WE SEE YOU

Leslie and Tesi do some reconnaissance on motherhood in the trenches and pull together a list of positive observations. The hosts do this in an act of intentional celebration. Too often women bring what needs to be improved to the forefront and forget about what they slay on the daily. Today, we take the time to lift up big and small victories! Listeners, help us! What have you noticed?


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