Episode 89: Creating Your Family Brand

On Episode 89 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie get practical. As a family unit in a complex world, they know that listeners are just like them...they’re continually evolving and redefining who they are and where their values lie. How do we identify those values and live them out on the daily? How do we express our values as a family? One way is through the creation of a “family brand.” Tesi and Leslie follow cues from Bruce Feiler’s The Secrets of Happy Families and dive into how to make a family brand. Similar to a mission statement, a family brand is a motivator when obstacles mount and articulates success in times of celebration; can help parents make decisions in moments both big and small; and is easily repeatable and ultimately can unite your household and serve as a reminder of what you hold dear. The Mama Bears love the promise that the new year brings and today’s episode will follow the theme of new beginnings and narrow in on how our intentions of lovingkindness might play out as a family unit. Be sure to listen in as Tesi and Leslie reveal their own family brands and help you create your own!

Steps to Creating Your Family Brand*

  1. Carve Out Time
  2. Center and Discuss
  3. Try it On
  4. Print it Out to Live it Out
  5. Revisit and Reflect

*For more detailed instructions, listen to the podcast or check out the Mama Bear Blog.

LINK:

The Secrets of Happy Families, by Bruce Feiler



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Episode 88: It's Never One Person's Work with Tabitha Mparmira-Kaguri

Like many of us, mom, friend, PhD candidate, and activist Tabitha Mpamira-Kaguri has become consumed with by the brokenness of the world. Unlike some, she’s experienced it firsthand, and, heroically, is working for redemption—not just for herself but for victims of sexual assault living in America AND those a world away in sub-Saharan Africa. On Episode 88 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha talk about what it looks like to turn heartache and rage into action and healing. They deep dive into the treatment of women worldwide, the dominance of the pervading rape culture, and the ways in which we can turn the tide toward dignity and equality. The conversation is far-reaching, and will ultimately inspire listens to be open to the pain of the world and engage their Mama Bear to work for justice in ways big and small.

Also discussed in this episode:

  • Gender roles within different cultural traditions
  • The origin of a nonprofit (EDJA)
  • Victim shaming
  • Finding hope in the midst of darkness
  • How to move from an immediate band-aid solution to sustainable change
  • How to raise our children in the midst of rape culture
  • Race in America and embracing your individual racial identity

Links

Find Tabitha online here: EDJA Foundation | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram

Listen to Episode 67 of the MBD podcast: Rape Culture (and why we can't not talk about it)

Have you read Ta-Nehisi Coates Between the World and Me yet? Check it out and let Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha know what you think!



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Episode 85: Holiday Survival Guide (Mama Bear Style!)

On this Mama Bear Mini, Leslie and Tesi discuss ways to maintain sanity and fully enjoy the holiday season. They come up with a short, snappy list of ways that they’re planning minimize the stress of the season and celebrate its joys instead. The hosts encourage listeners to allow this season to be one of managed expectations, embracing “okay” (rather than perfectionism!), and allowing a pace that’s relaxed enough to truly enjoy the special moments this season brings. In doing so, Tesi and Leslie remind listeners that in order to outwardly spread their love in the world, they need to fill up on love themselves. Finally, the co-hosts debut a new segment called I Martyr So Hard (#imartyrsohard) in which they examine the posture of a modern-day martyr and fess up to times they’ve entered martyr-mode. You won’t want to miss it!

4 Mama Bear Approved Steps to Finding Joy this Holiday Season

  1. Embrace Tradition and Ritual
  2. Manage Expectations
  3. Banish Perfectionism
  4. Pick a date to be done ... and be done.

Do you martyr so hard??

Please make Leslie and Tesi feel better by letting them know that they’re not the only ones who slip into this mode occasionally! What does this look like for you? When do you martyr-so-hard? Share your stories with the Mama Bear community on social media or via email and use the hashtag #imartyrsohard. The most entertaining will be read in a forthcoming podcast episode!


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Episode 84: Holding Up the Mirror of Sanity (Youth Sports Edition) with Margot Starbuck

On Episode 84 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie converse with Margot Starbuck about a topic back by popular demand: Youth Sports Culture. Margot is the author of the book Overplayed: A Parent's Guide to Sanity in the World of Youth Sports and offers hosts and listeners great insight and information about the current landscape of youth sports in America and encourages us to engage our Mama Bear for the sake of our kids and the American psyche. This episode of full of great statistics and research, helpful anecdotes, and wisdom that applies to parenting athletes and non-athletes alike.

Other topics discussed:

  • The history of youth sports in America
  • Overuse, injuries, and the growing human body
  • How to identify passion, nurture talent, and encourage movement without pressure
  • A Mama Bear Sorority to support one another in mediocre, lazy, and cheap parenting
  • Pros and Cons of organized sports, travel teams, and pursuing excellence on the playing field

LINKS:

Find Margot online:

Website | Free downloadable discussion guide | Invite Margot to speak!

Read about NCAA collegiate athletes making it to professional sports.

Read about high school athletes getting college scholarships.

Mama Bear Dares Episode 56: Youth Sports: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Mama Bear Dares Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango


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Episode 82: Dauntless and Dear with Adina Rosenberg Natanson

On Episode 81 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie give listeners a conversation with Adina Rosenberg Natanson, a woman who is a wife, a mama to two, and the founder of PrenatalFit, a gym in the Lincoln Park neighborhood of Chicago designed for women before, during, and after pregnancy. Over her years in the fitness industry, Adina has established a safe and powerful place for women that aims (much like the podcast) to empower, inspire, and provide unwavering support. The three women talk about the healthy and helpful community that she has built, about the unique experience of pregnancy and birth, and about how to listen to your gut and follow through with your instincts—even when others haven't yet embraced your vision. It’s an inspiring conversation with Anita, a woman who listeners are sure to find to be simultaneously daring and darling.

Other topics discussed:

  • Following your dream in the face of opposition
  • Establishing community in unlikely places
  • The powerful experience of childbirth
  • The fitness industry and alternatives to the "norm"
  • The birthing industry and alternatives to the "norm"
  • Sisterhood and why we need it

Links:

Find Adina online HERE and HERE and HERE

Read The Red Tent by Anita Diamont

Check out The Business of Being Born


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Episode 79: How to be a Compassionate Consumer this Holiday Season

On Episode 79 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk about how we can exercise compassionate consumerism this holiday season. The hosts give practical tips on ways to engage the Mama Bear to create ripples of hope and justice in what is typically a very intense season of buying. We believe a good Mama Bear can give their families and their children great gifts and a magical season without exploiting those producing and manufacturing, and all the while remaining true to their values and principles. The waves of our culture are very strong this time of year so the hosts hope to offer a bit of a primer and encourage listeners to lead with love as they exercise their purchasing power this holiday season.

LINKS:

Shop here first:


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Episode 76: Resilient Souls with Cathy Lander-Goldberg

On Episode 76 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to Cathy Lander-Goldberg, a mother and photographer who this month will open a new exhibit in St. Louis called the Resilient Souls Project, which encourages the inner strength in every woman through portrait and writing. The three women discuss culture, resiliency, body image, and the power of healing through art. Tesi and Leslie listen as Cathy enthuses about her work, her care for vulnerable women, her love of photography, and about her 25 years of work with children, adolescent females and adult women. Cathy, who is also a licensed social worker, uses photography and writing to promote self-awareness and self-expression, a topic of conversation that listeners will be fascinated by.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • Creating art in the age of social media
  • Self portrait vs. selfie
  • Writing and photography as a journey to health
  • Resiliency in modern day mothering

LINKS

Find Cathy Lander-Goldberg online: YouTube | Facebook | WEB | Email

Buy Cathy's book, Photo Explorations: A Girl's Guide To Self-Discovery Through Photography, Writing and Drawing, on AMAZON.

We'd love to see your selfie/self portrait! Share it with Cathy and the Mama Bares online (Facebook, Insta, Twitter -- wherever you're at!) and tag #resilientsouls and #mamabeardares! Let's flood the interwebs with pictures of lovely, thoughtful, beautiful women!


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Episode 75: Politics: Don't Let Them Paralyze, Allow Them to Propel

Regardless of the vote that you cast on Election Tuesday (which was two days ago, as of this podcast release), you're likely shaken by the months and months of drama and rhetoric leading up to the day and perhaps deeply surprised by the result. On Episode 75 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss Tuesday's election honestly and with great vulnerability in hope of sorting through their own feelings, fears, and pain, all the while encouraging listeners to heal and move through this period with grace and love. Ultimately, they believe that Mama Bear is having her moment. She might be angry. She might be baffled. She might be thrilled or surprised by her own feelings. This podcast encourages all of us — no matter who you voted for — to access their Mama Bear for good.

Seven Suggestions for Post-Election Healing

  1. Step away from media
  2. Read a book, listen to music, binge watch Christmas movies, & play family board games
  3. GIVE (channel your energy into being the change for our nation)
  4. Nurture relationships that matter
  5. Take solace in the fact that there is nothing new under the sun
  6. Share a pot of soup with your neighbor and friend (when you're ready)
  7. Activate your Mama Bear

LINKS:

We've addressed several important issues on previous podcasts. You'll find a few, listed by theme, here:

Episode 23 (Immigration) | Episode 67 (Rape Culture) | Episode 73 (Racism)
Episode 48 (Women's issues)

Sexual assault links:

http://www.svfreenyc.org/volun_resources.html

https://www.rainn.org/get-involved

Racial justice links:

SURJ

BLMM

http://greatfutures.org/pages/waystogive.aspx?_ga=1.12737010.43999393.1478702949

http://www.joincampaignzero.org/#vision

http://www.naacp.org/find-local-unit/

Immigration links:

World Relief

https://co.clickandpledge.com/sp/d1/default.aspx?wid=118896

https://www.nilc.org/get-involved/

http://immigrationforum.org/heartsmindslives/

http://www.borderangels.org/our-causes/

Muslim information and advocacy:

https://www.cair.com/cair-chapters.html

LGBTQ information and advocacy:

https://www.mazzonicenter.org/donate-now/volunteer-opportunities

http://srlp.org/get-involved/volunteer/

Climate change:

https://secure.earthjustice.org/site/Donation2?df_id=10960&10960.donation=form1&_ga=1.146521844.1974926048.1478708236

Cowspiracy

https://vault.sierraclub.org/ways-to-give/

Womanhood:

http://www.emilyslist.org/pages/entry/run-for-office

http://actnow.prochoiceamerica.org/signup/volunteer/?source=website#.WCSWOaOZPVp

http://nownyc.org/get-involved/

https://plannedparenthoodrccorpvolunteer.peoplefluent.com/index.html

https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/1438163

https://secure.runningstartonline.org/page/contribute/onetimedonation

https://sheshouldrun.nationbuilder.com/donate


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Episode 73: 10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

On Episode 73 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss privilege, racism, and 10 ways they believe white moms can use their privilege to fight racism and spread love. They trust that the podcast community is a safe place to express their observations, experiences, and beliefs about this topic and humbly ask readers to consider their perspective, poke holes in their theories, and promise to journey together to make a better tomorrow. Lovers of actionable steps and lists, Leslie and Tesi come up with 10 tangible ways to engage their Mama Bear in this fight. The 10 steps are listed below; for complete details and explanation, listen in!

10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

  1. Acknowledge your privilege
  2. Learn about implicit bias and examine how it plays out in your life
  3. Listen and learn from those to whom the experience belongs
  4. Amplify the voices of people of color
  5. Talk to your kids, your neighbor, the mail carrier, and your mom about why Black Lives Matter movement matters
  6. Teach your kids that skin color matters
  7. Be a co-conspirator
  8. Advocate for diversity in your life
  9. Pronounce your kids’ friends name’s correctly
  10. Avoid sing racially coded language at home and in conversation

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Episode 71: Let's Lighten Up

It's been getting a little hot in here. Tesi and Leslie have recorded a string of Mama Bear Minis focusing on the hard work of marriage, on the rampant rape culture prevalent here in the U.S.A., and how racism plays out in our homes and our responsibility as Mama Bears to do our best to squash it. Because of the serious nature of these episodes, the hosts decided they needed a little break from the intensity and talk about lighter fare on Episode 71, specifically, books, television, and food. Listen in as they do their best to embrace a little levity.

Books

Leslie's reading Wonder Women: 25 Innovators, Inventors, and Trailblazers Who Changed History and a magazine called Breathe (and Make Time for Yourself).

Tesi just started The Leftovers, a novel by Tom Perrotta.

Television

Listen in to hear what Leslie and Tesi are watching AND to learn the identity of the one and only celebrity Tesi has ever felt moved to tweet at!

Food

Leslie's been loving sweet potatoes. Here are a few ways to cook and eat them.

Tesi's latest "company" dinner (the meal she serves to guests!). Listen in for details, but start the sauce here: Peanut Butter Tofu Sauce: 1 C brown sugar, 1 C soy sauce, 1 C peanut butter, 2 tsp chili garlic sauce. Combine with tofu and then toss with pasta or long grain rice.

Tesi's favorite TV-watching snack is Smart Pop!

LINKS to articles mentioned in DARE

How America Outlawed Adolescence | When the World is An Arcade


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Episode 70: You Deserve to be Healthy & Well with Dr. Nicole Rankins

On Episode 70 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to OB-GYN and health coach Nicole Rankins about pregnancy, birth, and the long road of taking good care of ourselves throughout the many stages of life. The women dive into the state of healthcare in the United States of America and grasp a practical understanding of the nuances through Nicole's experience and examples. The three spend the hour discussing they why and how of healthcare and learn from Dr. Rankins as she advocates for women becoming the expert on their own lives.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • Pregnancy—managing expectations, preparing your metaphorical "birthing toolbox," chord clamping, and why the miracle of childbirth never gets old
  • Integrative health coaching—what it is and how you might benefit
  • Self care IS health care—being your own advocate, getting to know your body and its needs, practicing meditation, and the importance of asking for help

LINKS

Nicole's website (there you'll find her email and all kinds of other information

Why You Don't Have A Health Coach and Why You Should


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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the beats!

Episode 67: Rape Culture & Why We Can't Not Talk About It

On today's special episode, Tesi and Leslie explore a topic that they touched on in Episode 30 but believe warrants further discussion because of recent news events. On this episode, the co-hosts discuss rape culture—what it means, how it’s perpetuated, who is at fault, how it plays out in our lives, and the repercussions for us as women and moms. Ultimately, the two hope that by engaging in the conversation in the safe space of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, they will encourage listeners to engage their Mama Bear and help move the dial forward. Here are the main points discussed:

  • A definition of rape culture
  • A discussion of what rape culture has been and how it continues to be perpetuated
  • The repercussions — on all of us — for living in this culture
  • How moms of boys can help squash rape culture
  • How moms of girls can help squash rape culture

LINKS:

In preparing this episode, the hosts found the following links to be helpful. Please note that this is not a comprehensive list, but a start toward understanding and action:

Brock Turner | Victim Shaming | Black Women and Victimization | Transgender Violence | The link between domestic violence and murder | Rape in Prison | Kelly Oxford on Twitter | What Trump/Cosby allegations have taught us about rape culture

Revisit Episode 30: Gorilla, Rape Culture, and the Role of Parents


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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the beats!