Episode 74: Faith, Love, and Fidelity with Katherine Willis Pershey

On Episode 74 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to Katherine Willis Pershey, a mother, pastor, thinker, and author, about what it's like to feel the temptation of an extra-marital affair and then process that temptation within her relationship to her husband, her children, her church, and the larger world. The three women—each of whom has been married to their respective spouses for approximately 14 years—discuss our culture and how it impacts the way we live out our vows. Tesi and Leslie listen as Katherine opens up about her near-infidelity, about the hard work of marriage and the beauty and challenge of a sacred covenant, and the healing and growing process that resulted in an honest, candid book called Very Married: Field Notes on Love and Fidelity.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • The ways in which we discuss and write about marriage
  • The stages of love and the ways to nurture a relationship over time
  • Rage and regret
  • Beyonce
  • Marriage inequality in America

LINKS

Find Katherine online: Website | Facebook | Twitter

Katherine's Chicago Tribune article referenced in the podcast can be found HERE.

Buy Katherine's book on AMAZON.

A few helpful links on marriage in America: here | here

Tesi and Leslie take on marriage on Episode 69 of the podcast.

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Episode 71: Let's Lighten Up

It's been getting a little hot in here. Tesi and Leslie have recorded a string of Mama Bear Minis focusing on the hard work of marriage, on the rampant rape culture prevalent here in the U.S.A., and how racism plays out in our homes and our responsibility as Mama Bears to do our best to squash it. Because of the serious nature of these episodes, the hosts decided they needed a little break from the intensity and talk about lighter fare on Episode 71, specifically, books, television, and food. Listen in as they do their best to embrace a little levity.

Books

Leslie's reading Wonder Women: 25 Innovators, Inventors, and Trailblazers Who Changed History and a magazine called Breathe (and Make Time for Yourself).

Tesi just started The Leftovers, a novel by Tom Perrotta.

Television

Listen in to hear what Leslie and Tesi are watching AND to learn the identity of the one and only celebrity Tesi has ever felt moved to tweet at!

Food

Leslie's been loving sweet potatoes. Here are a few ways to cook and eat them.

Tesi's latest "company" dinner (the meal she serves to guests!). Listen in for details, but start the sauce here: Peanut Butter Tofu Sauce: 1 C brown sugar, 1 C soy sauce, 1 C peanut butter, 2 tsp chili garlic sauce. Combine with tofu and then toss with pasta or long grain rice.

Tesi's favorite TV-watching snack is Smart Pop!

LINKS to articles mentioned in DARE

How America Outlawed Adolescence | When the World is An Arcade


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Episode 70: You Deserve to be Healthy & Well with Dr. Nicole Rankins

On Episode 70 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to OB-GYN and health coach Nicole Rankins about pregnancy, birth, and the long road of taking good care of ourselves throughout the many stages of life. The women dive into the state of healthcare in the United States of America and grasp a practical understanding of the nuances through Nicole's experience and examples. The three spend the hour discussing they why and how of healthcare and learn from Dr. Rankins as she advocates for women becoming the expert on their own lives.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • Pregnancy—managing expectations, preparing your metaphorical "birthing toolbox," chord clamping, and why the miracle of childbirth never gets old
  • Integrative health coaching—what it is and how you might benefit
  • Self care IS health care—being your own advocate, getting to know your body and its needs, practicing meditation, and the importance of asking for help

LINKS

Nicole's website (there you'll find her email and all kinds of other information

Why You Don't Have A Health Coach and Why You Should


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Episode 66: 5 Steps to Publishing Your Book, Pursuing Your Passion, & Following Your Dreams

On this Mama Bear Mini, co-hosts Leslie and Tesi announce the winner of the bundle of Leslie's new release, Mama Bear's Manifesto: A Moms' Group Guide to Changing the World. After celebrating this listener and her thoughtful comment, the women discuss Leslie's publishing journey in depth, pulling out five steps that might make listeners a bit closer to publishing their book, pursuing their passion, or following their dream. The hosts encourage listeners who have ideas for books, blogs, or businesses, but have yet to put pen to paper. Always encouragers, Tesi and Leslie hope listeners will learn from Leslie's journey and embrace their own exciting pursuit!

WE HAVE A WINNER!

Thanks to everyone who commented on iTunes in hopes of winning a bundle of Leslie's new book, Mama Bear's Manifesto: A Moms' Group Guide to Changing the World. Here's what our winner, 44bot, has to say about the podcast. We appreciate these words so much!

Each time I tune in to the Mama Bear Dares podcast I feel “these ladies are my tribe.” Not only do I learn something new, I also feel a renewed sense of who I am in all the many role in which I live. I feel that by simply tuning in I am in touch with how I choose to walk in the world! Thank you, Leslie & Tesi!

FIVE STEPS TO PUBLISHING, PURSUING, & FOLLOWING:

Five years ago Leslie decided to write a book. The muse struck and for the next year she wrote...and wrote...and wrote. She then entered the world of publishing and learned a lot about marketing, platform building, patience, and leaning into the long-game. For details, be sure to listen to the episode, but here we offer the five basic steps to publishing your book, pursuing your passion, and following your dreams.

  1. Listen for the muse and then do it for LOVE
  2. Create a quality product
  3. Build your platform
  4. Release the art...and your expectations
  5. Throw yourself a party (celebrate small victories)

HELPFUL LINKS FOR ASPIRING AUTHORS

Leslie is represented by MacGregor Literary, check out their BLOG.

THIS is a good read. | This BOOK is a must for writing a book proposal.


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Episode 63: Taking on the Mantle of Motherhood with Julie Lyles Carr

On Episode 63 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Leslie and Tesi spend the hour with Julie Lyles Carr, an incredible and inspiring woman who is a writer, photographer, pastor, and the founder/director of a non-profit called Legacy of Hope. Julie drops by the podcast to tell the hosts about her new book, Raising An Original, but the three women end up covering not just the topics inherent to writing and the content of what she's created, but the importance of staying curious, taking care of the Other Self (for Julie, running, reading, bathing, and quiet time does the trick!), and best practices in parenting original kids as the original women and men we were created to be. The conversation stretches in all sorts of ways and Leslie and Tesi spend their time soaking up the wisdom of this delightful woman. Julie is thoughtful and intelligent, loving and charming. If you are for growth, action, and intentional and nuanced parenting, you'll adore today's conversation.

Also discussed on the podcast:

  • The beauty of staying curious
  • Becoming a mouthpiece to solutions in this broken world
  • Honoring your original kid
  • Honoring the original way in which you parent
  • Giving ourselves permission to BE an original so that we can RAISE an original
  • The danger of asking our children to carry our identity
  • Awakening your "noticer" — paying attention to each child's unique personality and human traits, and recognizing this as a process that is forever changing

LINKS:

Buy Julie's book, Raising An Original, HERE.

Learn more about Julie Lyles Carr HERE.

Have you heard of an ambivert?

Check out Legacy of Hope Austin and be inspired!


Join the conversation online! Here’s where you can find us:

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Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much fun and really appreciate you listening!!

Help support Mama Bear Dares by shopping with us! Here are our affiliate links:

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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

As always, thanks to Wunderkind for the beats!

Pre-order Leslie's book, Mama Bear's Manifesto, by clicking here!

Episode 62: The Clarity & Freedom of Organizing The F Drawer

It's easy to fall victim to our inability to live an authentic life simply by giving up our agency and forgetting that we're the ones steering the ship. Whether it's because we're trying to please someone, we're trying to protect or bolster our reputation, or we just don't know how to say no, so often we end up going places that we have no desire to be, engaging in battles that ultimately don't matter, and spending precious energy on things that are soul-sucking. Co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle these ideas in a segment called We Read, We Loved It, Let's Discuss and then jump into a new segment called We See You, which is a celebration of modern-day motherhood and the ways that so many are wearing it with incredible grace and gusto. 

WE READ IT, WE LOVED IT, LET'S DISCUSS

In this portion of the Mama Bear Mini, co-hosts discuss the book The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want To Do by Sarah Knight. The women discuss the need to do internal work in order to live the life we want. They envision tidying up their "mental F drawers," as Knight suggests, and prioritizing things, people, and activities in order to steer the ship that is life. Tesi and Leslie discuss their "F drawers" and "F budgets," organizing and prioritizing in hopes for healthier relationships and richer lives.

In an extension of this conversation, Leslie and Tesi discuss the opportunity as Mama Bears to drawhard-lines and organize our collective Mama Bear "F drawers" in hopes of more peace and less judgement between moms. For instance, child birth. It's hard to judge a natural birth vs. an epidural when you don't give an F.

For your reference: Buy The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F#*k HERE. Listen to Episode 45 about The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

WE SEE YOU

Leslie and Tesi do some reconnaissance on motherhood in the trenches and pull together a list of positive observations. The hosts do this in an act of intentional celebration. Too often women bring what needs to be improved to the forefront and forget about what they slay on the daily. Today, we take the time to lift up big and small victories! Listeners, help us! What have you noticed?


Join the conversation online! Here’s where you can find us:

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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

As always, thanks to Wunderkind for the beats!

Pre-order Leslie's book, Mama Bear's Manifesto, by clicking here!