Episode 84: Holding Up the Mirror of Sanity (Youth Sports Edition) with Margot Starbuck

On Episode 84 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie converse with Margot Starbuck about a topic back by popular demand: Youth Sports Culture. Margot is the author of the book Overplayed: A Parent's Guide to Sanity in the World of Youth Sports and offers hosts and listeners great insight and information about the current landscape of youth sports in America and encourages us to engage our Mama Bear for the sake of our kids and the American psyche. This episode of full of great statistics and research, helpful anecdotes, and wisdom that applies to parenting athletes and non-athletes alike.

Other topics discussed:

  • The history of youth sports in America
  • Overuse, injuries, and the growing human body
  • How to identify passion, nurture talent, and encourage movement without pressure
  • A Mama Bear Sorority to support one another in mediocre, lazy, and cheap parenting
  • Pros and Cons of organized sports, travel teams, and pursuing excellence on the playing field

LINKS:

Find Margot online:

Website | Free downloadable discussion guide | Invite Margot to speak!

Read about NCAA collegiate athletes making it to professional sports.

Read about high school athletes getting college scholarships.

Mama Bear Dares Episode 56: Youth Sports: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Mama Bear Dares Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango


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Episode 83: Food As Activism

On Episode 83 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk about food as activism. It’s a topic that’s relevant every single day, but because there is a lot of focus on feasting and eating this time of year, the hosts dig deep into how Mama Bear can be engaged as she cooks and eats this holiday season. The co-hosts focus on food as a political act of justice and the act of eating for the larger good. Their message isn’t new—social activists worldwide see food as a means for creating social equality—but their lively conversation focuses on the areas specific to Mama Bear and how she might use the table as a place for social change.

LINKS FOR FURTHER INVESTIGATION:

New York Times Opinion Piece

Healthy Hunger Free Kids information

Information on SNAP

A few of Leslie's Radish Magazine articles on the topic of food: HERE and HERE

Tesi's vegan lasagna recipe can be found HERE

Learn more about Bill McKibben and

National Geographic Food Feature on Hunger in America

Read more about food and the environment HERE

Learn about chocolate and child slavery HERE and HERE

Listen to Episode 79: How to be a Compassionate Consumer this Holiday Season


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Episode 80: Shame is Loud, Truth is Louder

Like so many of us, writer, speaker, mom, and activist Aubrey Sampson has been consumed with shame from an early age. On Episode 80 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi, Leslie, and Aubrey talk about what it's like to be a woman in America and the forces at play in our culture that make so many of us feel "less than." Why do so many of us live with shame? How can we combat it in our lives and value ourselves for the beautiful beings that we are? The three women discuss Aubrey's book, Overcomer: Breaking Down the Walls of Shame and Rebuilding Your Soul and begin to tackle the hard but essential work of rebuilding our souls and living free from the shackles of feeling like we're not enough.

Other topics discussed:

  • What is shame? What does it mean to feel "not enough"?
  • Sexual assault in America
  • Shames tendency to "shrink" the American woman
  • Self talk ... tips and tricks to treating yourself kindly
  • Activating the Mama Bear to turn pain into purpose
  • Demolishing shame on the behalf of others

Links:

Find Aubrey online at www.aubreysampson.com.

Buy her book, Overcomer: Breaking Down the Walls of Shame and Rebuilding Your Soul

Listen in to the Mama Bear Dares Podcast on Rape Culture HERE.

Tomorrow is #GivingTuesday:

For a full list of our favorites, check out Episode 79. But first, start here:

Empower Tanzania/Water Party gold bangle bracelets

Adventure Project Coal


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Episode 74: Faith, Love, and Fidelity with Katherine Willis Pershey

On Episode 74 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to Katherine Willis Pershey, a mother, pastor, thinker, and author, about what it's like to feel the temptation of an extra-marital affair and then process that temptation within her relationship to her husband, her children, her church, and the larger world. The three women—each of whom has been married to their respective spouses for approximately 14 years—discuss our culture and how it impacts the way we live out our vows. Tesi and Leslie listen as Katherine opens up about her near-infidelity, about the hard work of marriage and the beauty and challenge of a sacred covenant, and the healing and growing process that resulted in an honest, candid book called Very Married: Field Notes on Love and Fidelity.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • The ways in which we discuss and write about marriage
  • The stages of love and the ways to nurture a relationship over time
  • Rage and regret
  • Beyonce
  • Marriage inequality in America

LINKS

Find Katherine online: Website | Facebook | Twitter

Katherine's Chicago Tribune article referenced in the podcast can be found HERE.

Buy Katherine's book on AMAZON.

A few helpful links on marriage in America: here | here

Tesi and Leslie take on marriage on Episode 69 of the podcast.

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Episode 73: 10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

On Episode 73 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss privilege, racism, and 10 ways they believe white moms can use their privilege to fight racism and spread love. They trust that the podcast community is a safe place to express their observations, experiences, and beliefs about this topic and humbly ask readers to consider their perspective, poke holes in their theories, and promise to journey together to make a better tomorrow. Lovers of actionable steps and lists, Leslie and Tesi come up with 10 tangible ways to engage their Mama Bear in this fight. The 10 steps are listed below; for complete details and explanation, listen in!

10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

  1. Acknowledge your privilege
  2. Learn about implicit bias and examine how it plays out in your life
  3. Listen and learn from those to whom the experience belongs
  4. Amplify the voices of people of color
  5. Talk to your kids, your neighbor, the mail carrier, and your mom about why Black Lives Matter movement matters
  6. Teach your kids that skin color matters
  7. Be a co-conspirator
  8. Advocate for diversity in your life
  9. Pronounce your kids’ friends name’s correctly
  10. Avoid sing racially coded language at home and in conversation

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Episode 70: You Deserve to be Healthy & Well with Dr. Nicole Rankins

On Episode 70 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to OB-GYN and health coach Nicole Rankins about pregnancy, birth, and the long road of taking good care of ourselves throughout the many stages of life. The women dive into the state of healthcare in the United States of America and grasp a practical understanding of the nuances through Nicole's experience and examples. The three spend the hour discussing they why and how of healthcare and learn from Dr. Rankins as she advocates for women becoming the expert on their own lives.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • Pregnancy—managing expectations, preparing your metaphorical "birthing toolbox," chord clamping, and why the miracle of childbirth never gets old
  • Integrative health coaching—what it is and how you might benefit
  • Self care IS health care—being your own advocate, getting to know your body and its needs, practicing meditation, and the importance of asking for help

LINKS

Nicole's website (there you'll find her email and all kinds of other information

Why You Don't Have A Health Coach and Why You Should


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Episode 69: How to Survive 14 Years of Marriage

It's one thing to stand at the altar dressed in your very best and tie the knot with your beloved in front of family and friends. It's another to live with your betrothed day in and day out for the next 14...25...50 years. On Episode 69 of the Mama Bear Dares podcasts, the hosts speak honestly about what marriage requires of two individuals hoping to make a life together. They sort through gender differences, how a union can become complicated by changes (jobs and kids, to name a few), and the enormous and unavoidable impact that the American culture has on the way we marry and (do our best to) stay married. It's a complex partnership that can be beautiful, but that is not always all that sexy. Co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle these ideas and then jump into a special marriage edition of a fan-favorite: Things We Should Probably Feel Guilty About But Don't.

LINKS:

Tesi's blog post about marriage

Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango


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Episode 68: Get It Together with Eirene Heidelberger

On Episode 68 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to Eirene Heidelberger, the CEO and founder of GITMom, a full-service parent coaching and advice company that endeavors to empower moms by offering effective parenting techniques and help with common parenting battles. Though Eirene has been frequently featured in the national news media, on today's podcast the women get intimate while sitting down in Eirene's home as she opens up to discuss her childhood, her struggles with new motherhood, her frustrations and her hopes, and the way she found her way to becoming the thriving woman, mother, and business owner that she is today.

Here's a secret: very few of us arrive at motherhood with complete understanding and a full knowledge of what it will be like. Sometimes we simply need a hand to hold or a tribe to join in order to catch glimpses of light. Eirene, Tesi, and Leslie hold a discussion that will contribute to that sunshine...offering hope, understanding, and a few practical tips on life in the trenches.

Also discussed:

  • How the environment you grew up in can shape the way you mother your children
  • GITMom's origin story
  • The "art" of parenting — right-brained or left-brained, we're all artists!
  • The special role of mothers and how to find new moms the support they need
  • Identifying and addressing our triggers as parents
  • The importance of taking care of yourself before you can care with others

OBSESS SESH with GITMom

Canadian Pinot Noir | Baby Pink Wool Coat | Parenting Victories

LINKS

Find Eirene online. She'd love to connect! WEB  | FB | Email |

TODAY Parents blog | Huffington Post blog

GIT MOM GIVEAWAY

Head over to the GIT Mom Facebook page and comment on any of Eirene's posts from now until October 31st and then LIKE her page to be entered to win a 1-hour coaching session to fix any parenting issue your family is facing!! Maybe you can't get your toddler to preschool without being a sweaty mess. Maybe your partner thinks he's "babysitting" his own child and you need to convince him otherwise. Or, you just can't find your mom happiness because all you do is wipe poopy butts. You and Eirene will spend an hour over Skype and Get It Together!


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Episode 65: Ritual & Parenting

In Episode 65 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, hosts Tesi and Leslie introduce listeners to Kendra Thompson. Kendra is mother of two, a pastor, and a writer, and together the three woman focus the conversation on words like myth, habit, routine, ritual, vows, and discipline. Throughout the conversation the women play with these ideas as they try to understand how each of these rather grand-sounding terms fit into our lives. Tesi, Leslie, and Kendra enter this conversation from all sorts of angles: from a mothering standpoint, a spiritual standpoint, and from a partnership standpoint — focusing in on marriage in particular.

Other topics discussed:

  • The layers of serving God, leading a congregation, and raising a family
  • How to pray
  • The spiritual guidance and development of children
  • Recognizing your rituals
  • The spirituality of self-care

LINKS

Find Kendra on Twitter, Instagram, and on her BLOG

Check out the Wendell Berry poem, To My Mother, mentioned in the podcast


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Episode 62: The Clarity & Freedom of Organizing The F Drawer

It's easy to fall victim to our inability to live an authentic life simply by giving up our agency and forgetting that we're the ones steering the ship. Whether it's because we're trying to please someone, we're trying to protect or bolster our reputation, or we just don't know how to say no, so often we end up going places that we have no desire to be, engaging in battles that ultimately don't matter, and spending precious energy on things that are soul-sucking. Co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle these ideas in a segment called We Read, We Loved It, Let's Discuss and then jump into a new segment called We See You, which is a celebration of modern-day motherhood and the ways that so many are wearing it with incredible grace and gusto. 

WE READ IT, WE LOVED IT, LET'S DISCUSS

In this portion of the Mama Bear Mini, co-hosts discuss the book The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want To Do by Sarah Knight. The women discuss the need to do internal work in order to live the life we want. They envision tidying up their "mental F drawers," as Knight suggests, and prioritizing things, people, and activities in order to steer the ship that is life. Tesi and Leslie discuss their "F drawers" and "F budgets," organizing and prioritizing in hopes for healthier relationships and richer lives.

In an extension of this conversation, Leslie and Tesi discuss the opportunity as Mama Bears to drawhard-lines and organize our collective Mama Bear "F drawers" in hopes of more peace and less judgement between moms. For instance, child birth. It's hard to judge a natural birth vs. an epidural when you don't give an F.

For your reference: Buy The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F#*k HERE. Listen to Episode 45 about The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

WE SEE YOU

Leslie and Tesi do some reconnaissance on motherhood in the trenches and pull together a list of positive observations. The hosts do this in an act of intentional celebration. Too often women bring what needs to be improved to the forefront and forget about what they slay on the daily. Today, we take the time to lift up big and small victories! Listeners, help us! What have you noticed?


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Episode 61: Failure Does Not Define Us with Christina Ceranna

In Episode 61 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie talk to Christina Ceranna about womanhood, friendship, and, most prominently, failure. The three women speak openly about times they've failed, about times they've been afraid to fail, about their children seeing them fail, and about the gifts that accompany the journey. The fear of failure so often stops us from pursuing our passions, simply because we are consumed by the idea that if the proejct fails, then it means we are failures. Today's conversation challenges listeners to become bedmates with failure and begin to understand that it is just another thing can happen to us, but does not define us. Throughout the candid conversation, the hosts lean into the unwavering kindness, thoughtfulness, and positivity of Christina and her quest to constantly grow as an individual.

Other themes that weave in and out of the conversation include:

  • Infertility and adoption
  • Divorce
  • Parenting without an agenda

OBSESS SESH:

We loved hearing about Christina's obsessions! She's currently loving asos.com for clothing (both maternity and otherwise), alcohol-free wine (perfect for the preggo mama), spray tans, and fake eyelashes.

LINKS:

Find Christina HERE.

Christina's recent blog post, When Loving Means Leaving, about her relationship to her mother, who lives with mental illness.

Books: Motherless Daughters | Motherless Mothers | Eat Pray Love | Brene Brown | Love Warrior


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