Episode 88: It's Never One Person's Work with Tabitha Mparmira-Kaguri

Like many of us, mom, friend, PhD candidate, and activist Tabitha Mpamira-Kaguri has become consumed with by the brokenness of the world. Unlike some, she’s experienced it firsthand, and, heroically, is working for redemption—not just for herself but for victims of sexual assault living in America AND those a world away in sub-Saharan Africa. On Episode 88 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha talk about what it looks like to turn heartache and rage into action and healing. They deep dive into the treatment of women worldwide, the dominance of the pervading rape culture, and the ways in which we can turn the tide toward dignity and equality. The conversation is far-reaching, and will ultimately inspire listens to be open to the pain of the world and engage their Mama Bear to work for justice in ways big and small.

Also discussed in this episode:

  • Gender roles within different cultural traditions
  • The origin of a nonprofit (EDJA)
  • Victim shaming
  • Finding hope in the midst of darkness
  • How to move from an immediate band-aid solution to sustainable change
  • How to raise our children in the midst of rape culture
  • Race in America and embracing your individual racial identity

Links

Find Tabitha online here: EDJA Foundation | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram

Listen to Episode 67 of the MBD podcast: Rape Culture (and why we can't not talk about it)

Have you read Ta-Nehisi Coates Between the World and Me yet? Check it out and let Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha know what you think!



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Episode 84: Holding Up the Mirror of Sanity (Youth Sports Edition) with Margot Starbuck

On Episode 84 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie converse with Margot Starbuck about a topic back by popular demand: Youth Sports Culture. Margot is the author of the book Overplayed: A Parent's Guide to Sanity in the World of Youth Sports and offers hosts and listeners great insight and information about the current landscape of youth sports in America and encourages us to engage our Mama Bear for the sake of our kids and the American psyche. This episode of full of great statistics and research, helpful anecdotes, and wisdom that applies to parenting athletes and non-athletes alike.

Other topics discussed:

  • The history of youth sports in America
  • Overuse, injuries, and the growing human body
  • How to identify passion, nurture talent, and encourage movement without pressure
  • A Mama Bear Sorority to support one another in mediocre, lazy, and cheap parenting
  • Pros and Cons of organized sports, travel teams, and pursuing excellence on the playing field

LINKS:

Find Margot online:

Website | Free downloadable discussion guide | Invite Margot to speak!

Read about NCAA collegiate athletes making it to professional sports.

Read about high school athletes getting college scholarships.

Mama Bear Dares Episode 56: Youth Sports: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Mama Bear Dares Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango


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Episode 83: Food As Activism

On Episode 83 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk about food as activism. It’s a topic that’s relevant every single day, but because there is a lot of focus on feasting and eating this time of year, the hosts dig deep into how Mama Bear can be engaged as she cooks and eats this holiday season. The co-hosts focus on food as a political act of justice and the act of eating for the larger good. Their message isn’t new—social activists worldwide see food as a means for creating social equality—but their lively conversation focuses on the areas specific to Mama Bear and how she might use the table as a place for social change.

LINKS FOR FURTHER INVESTIGATION:

New York Times Opinion Piece

Healthy Hunger Free Kids information

Information on SNAP

A few of Leslie's Radish Magazine articles on the topic of food: HERE and HERE

Tesi's vegan lasagna recipe can be found HERE

Learn more about Bill McKibben and

National Geographic Food Feature on Hunger in America

Read more about food and the environment HERE

Learn about chocolate and child slavery HERE and HERE

Listen to Episode 79: How to be a Compassionate Consumer this Holiday Season


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Episode 80: Shame is Loud, Truth is Louder

Like so many of us, writer, speaker, mom, and activist Aubrey Sampson has been consumed with shame from an early age. On Episode 80 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi, Leslie, and Aubrey talk about what it's like to be a woman in America and the forces at play in our culture that make so many of us feel "less than." Why do so many of us live with shame? How can we combat it in our lives and value ourselves for the beautiful beings that we are? The three women discuss Aubrey's book, Overcomer: Breaking Down the Walls of Shame and Rebuilding Your Soul and begin to tackle the hard but essential work of rebuilding our souls and living free from the shackles of feeling like we're not enough.

Other topics discussed:

  • What is shame? What does it mean to feel "not enough"?
  • Sexual assault in America
  • Shames tendency to "shrink" the American woman
  • Self talk ... tips and tricks to treating yourself kindly
  • Activating the Mama Bear to turn pain into purpose
  • Demolishing shame on the behalf of others

Links:

Find Aubrey online at www.aubreysampson.com.

Buy her book, Overcomer: Breaking Down the Walls of Shame and Rebuilding Your Soul

Listen in to the Mama Bear Dares Podcast on Rape Culture HERE.

Tomorrow is #GivingTuesday:

For a full list of our favorites, check out Episode 79. But first, start here:

Empower Tanzania/Water Party gold bangle bracelets

Adventure Project Coal


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Episode 75: Politics: Don't Let Them Paralyze, Allow Them to Propel

Regardless of the vote that you cast on Election Tuesday (which was two days ago, as of this podcast release), you're likely shaken by the months and months of drama and rhetoric leading up to the day and perhaps deeply surprised by the result. On Episode 75 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss Tuesday's election honestly and with great vulnerability in hope of sorting through their own feelings, fears, and pain, all the while encouraging listeners to heal and move through this period with grace and love. Ultimately, they believe that Mama Bear is having her moment. She might be angry. She might be baffled. She might be thrilled or surprised by her own feelings. This podcast encourages all of us — no matter who you voted for — to access their Mama Bear for good.

Seven Suggestions for Post-Election Healing

  1. Step away from media
  2. Read a book, listen to music, binge watch Christmas movies, & play family board games
  3. GIVE (channel your energy into being the change for our nation)
  4. Nurture relationships that matter
  5. Take solace in the fact that there is nothing new under the sun
  6. Share a pot of soup with your neighbor and friend (when you're ready)
  7. Activate your Mama Bear

LINKS:

We've addressed several important issues on previous podcasts. You'll find a few, listed by theme, here:

Episode 23 (Immigration) | Episode 67 (Rape Culture) | Episode 73 (Racism)
Episode 48 (Women's issues)

Sexual assault links:

http://www.svfreenyc.org/volun_resources.html

https://www.rainn.org/get-involved

Racial justice links:

SURJ

BLMM

http://greatfutures.org/pages/waystogive.aspx?_ga=1.12737010.43999393.1478702949

http://www.joincampaignzero.org/#vision

http://www.naacp.org/find-local-unit/

Immigration links:

World Relief

https://co.clickandpledge.com/sp/d1/default.aspx?wid=118896

https://www.nilc.org/get-involved/

http://immigrationforum.org/heartsmindslives/

http://www.borderangels.org/our-causes/

Muslim information and advocacy:

https://www.cair.com/cair-chapters.html

LGBTQ information and advocacy:

https://www.mazzonicenter.org/donate-now/volunteer-opportunities

http://srlp.org/get-involved/volunteer/

Climate change:

https://secure.earthjustice.org/site/Donation2?df_id=10960&10960.donation=form1&_ga=1.146521844.1974926048.1478708236

Cowspiracy

https://vault.sierraclub.org/ways-to-give/

Womanhood:

http://www.emilyslist.org/pages/entry/run-for-office

http://actnow.prochoiceamerica.org/signup/volunteer/?source=website#.WCSWOaOZPVp

http://nownyc.org/get-involved/

https://plannedparenthoodrccorpvolunteer.peoplefluent.com/index.html

https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/1438163

https://secure.runningstartonline.org/page/contribute/onetimedonation

https://sheshouldrun.nationbuilder.com/donate


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Episode 73: 10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

On Episode 73 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss privilege, racism, and 10 ways they believe white moms can use their privilege to fight racism and spread love. They trust that the podcast community is a safe place to express their observations, experiences, and beliefs about this topic and humbly ask readers to consider their perspective, poke holes in their theories, and promise to journey together to make a better tomorrow. Lovers of actionable steps and lists, Leslie and Tesi come up with 10 tangible ways to engage their Mama Bear in this fight. The 10 steps are listed below; for complete details and explanation, listen in!

10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

  1. Acknowledge your privilege
  2. Learn about implicit bias and examine how it plays out in your life
  3. Listen and learn from those to whom the experience belongs
  4. Amplify the voices of people of color
  5. Talk to your kids, your neighbor, the mail carrier, and your mom about why Black Lives Matter movement matters
  6. Teach your kids that skin color matters
  7. Be a co-conspirator
  8. Advocate for diversity in your life
  9. Pronounce your kids’ friends name’s correctly
  10. Avoid sing racially coded language at home and in conversation

Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much fun podcasting and really appreciate you listening!!

Help support Mama Bear Dares by shopping with us! Here are our affiliate links:

Do your Amazon shopping here. It costs you nothing and we get a bit of change from Amazon with each purchase! Yay!

Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the beats!

Episode 67: Rape Culture & Why We Can't Not Talk About It

On today's special episode, Tesi and Leslie explore a topic that they touched on in Episode 30 but believe warrants further discussion because of recent news events. On this episode, the co-hosts discuss rape culture—what it means, how it’s perpetuated, who is at fault, how it plays out in our lives, and the repercussions for us as women and moms. Ultimately, the two hope that by engaging in the conversation in the safe space of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, they will encourage listeners to engage their Mama Bear and help move the dial forward. Here are the main points discussed:

  • A definition of rape culture
  • A discussion of what rape culture has been and how it continues to be perpetuated
  • The repercussions — on all of us — for living in this culture
  • How moms of boys can help squash rape culture
  • How moms of girls can help squash rape culture

LINKS:

In preparing this episode, the hosts found the following links to be helpful. Please note that this is not a comprehensive list, but a start toward understanding and action:

Brock Turner | Victim Shaming | Black Women and Victimization | Transgender Violence | The link between domestic violence and murder | Rape in Prison | Kelly Oxford on Twitter | What Trump/Cosby allegations have taught us about rape culture

Revisit Episode 30: Gorilla, Rape Culture, and the Role of Parents


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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the beats!