Episode 89: Creating Your Family Brand

On Episode 89 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie get practical. As a family unit in a complex world, they know that listeners are just like them...they’re continually evolving and redefining who they are and where their values lie. How do we identify those values and live them out on the daily? How do we express our values as a family? One way is through the creation of a “family brand.” Tesi and Leslie follow cues from Bruce Feiler’s The Secrets of Happy Families and dive into how to make a family brand. Similar to a mission statement, a family brand is a motivator when obstacles mount and articulates success in times of celebration; can help parents make decisions in moments both big and small; and is easily repeatable and ultimately can unite your household and serve as a reminder of what you hold dear. The Mama Bears love the promise that the new year brings and today’s episode will follow the theme of new beginnings and narrow in on how our intentions of lovingkindness might play out as a family unit. Be sure to listen in as Tesi and Leslie reveal their own family brands and help you create your own!

Steps to Creating Your Family Brand*

  1. Carve Out Time
  2. Center and Discuss
  3. Try it On
  4. Print it Out to Live it Out
  5. Revisit and Reflect

*For more detailed instructions, listen to the podcast or check out the Mama Bear Blog.

LINK:

The Secrets of Happy Families, by Bruce Feiler



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Episode 85: Holiday Survival Guide (Mama Bear Style!)

On this Mama Bear Mini, Leslie and Tesi discuss ways to maintain sanity and fully enjoy the holiday season. They come up with a short, snappy list of ways that they’re planning minimize the stress of the season and celebrate its joys instead. The hosts encourage listeners to allow this season to be one of managed expectations, embracing “okay” (rather than perfectionism!), and allowing a pace that’s relaxed enough to truly enjoy the special moments this season brings. In doing so, Tesi and Leslie remind listeners that in order to outwardly spread their love in the world, they need to fill up on love themselves. Finally, the co-hosts debut a new segment called I Martyr So Hard (#imartyrsohard) in which they examine the posture of a modern-day martyr and fess up to times they’ve entered martyr-mode. You won’t want to miss it!

4 Mama Bear Approved Steps to Finding Joy this Holiday Season

  1. Embrace Tradition and Ritual
  2. Manage Expectations
  3. Banish Perfectionism
  4. Pick a date to be done ... and be done.

Do you martyr so hard??

Please make Leslie and Tesi feel better by letting them know that they’re not the only ones who slip into this mode occasionally! What does this look like for you? When do you martyr-so-hard? Share your stories with the Mama Bear community on social media or via email and use the hashtag #imartyrsohard. The most entertaining will be read in a forthcoming podcast episode!


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Episode 84: Holding Up the Mirror of Sanity (Youth Sports Edition) with Margot Starbuck

On Episode 84 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie converse with Margot Starbuck about a topic back by popular demand: Youth Sports Culture. Margot is the author of the book Overplayed: A Parent's Guide to Sanity in the World of Youth Sports and offers hosts and listeners great insight and information about the current landscape of youth sports in America and encourages us to engage our Mama Bear for the sake of our kids and the American psyche. This episode of full of great statistics and research, helpful anecdotes, and wisdom that applies to parenting athletes and non-athletes alike.

Other topics discussed:

  • The history of youth sports in America
  • Overuse, injuries, and the growing human body
  • How to identify passion, nurture talent, and encourage movement without pressure
  • A Mama Bear Sorority to support one another in mediocre, lazy, and cheap parenting
  • Pros and Cons of organized sports, travel teams, and pursuing excellence on the playing field

LINKS:

Find Margot online:

Website | Free downloadable discussion guide | Invite Margot to speak!

Read about NCAA collegiate athletes making it to professional sports.

Read about high school athletes getting college scholarships.

Mama Bear Dares Episode 56: Youth Sports: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Mama Bear Dares Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango


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Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the special edition holiday beats!

Episode 81: Chocolate and Chips: Talking to Girls on the Precipice of Puberty

On Episode 80 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Leslie and Tesi gave listeners an intimate conversation about shame and self worth with author, mother, and all-around-wise-woman Aubrey Sampson. Based on listener feedback, it was clear that the themes of this podcast resonated: Shame. Our female bodies. How we can love them better and how we might teach our daughters to be empowered in their skin and have a healthy outlook on the human body they were born in. These themes are crucial and the women behind the podcast quickly decided they deserve a follow-up Mama Bear Mini.

On Episode 81, Tesi and Leslie dive deeper into the cultural relationship to the female body and give listeners suggestions on how to promote healthy body image in their home. The two base their conversation on Tesi’s powerful blog post, “An Open Letter to My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty,” and discuss body image, the beautiful attributes of femininity, the power of body language, sex, intimacy, and womanhood, all in hopes of shining the light on shame and furthering the conversation.

We had the conversation we often have when we pass magazines of women tucked, airbrushed and whitened. The idea that she will feel pressure to look a certain way or act a certain way is not new to Dailah because, like me, she is constantly watching and feeling. My conversations with Dailah have morphed from the ‘there is no one way to look or to be healthy and confident and beautiful’ to ‘listen to your gut, don’t drown out that voice inside that tells you the world is wrong or that you’re too much of anything.’
— Excerpt from Tesi's blog post, "To My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty"

LINKS:

Read Tesi's original blog post HERE.

Listen to Episode 22: Stop Interrupting Me HERE.

Listen to Episode 80: Shame is Loud, Truth is Louder with Aubrey Sampson HERE.


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Episode 76: Resilient Souls with Cathy Lander-Goldberg

On Episode 76 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to Cathy Lander-Goldberg, a mother and photographer who this month will open a new exhibit in St. Louis called the Resilient Souls Project, which encourages the inner strength in every woman through portrait and writing. The three women discuss culture, resiliency, body image, and the power of healing through art. Tesi and Leslie listen as Cathy enthuses about her work, her care for vulnerable women, her love of photography, and about her 25 years of work with children, adolescent females and adult women. Cathy, who is also a licensed social worker, uses photography and writing to promote self-awareness and self-expression, a topic of conversation that listeners will be fascinated by.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • Creating art in the age of social media
  • Self portrait vs. selfie
  • Writing and photography as a journey to health
  • Resiliency in modern day mothering

LINKS

Find Cathy Lander-Goldberg online: YouTube | Facebook | WEB | Email

Buy Cathy's book, Photo Explorations: A Girl's Guide To Self-Discovery Through Photography, Writing and Drawing, on AMAZON.

We'd love to see your selfie/self portrait! Share it with Cathy and the Mama Bares online (Facebook, Insta, Twitter -- wherever you're at!) and tag #resilientsouls and #mamabeardares! Let's flood the interwebs with pictures of lovely, thoughtful, beautiful women!


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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the beats!

Episode 75: Politics: Don't Let Them Paralyze, Allow Them to Propel

Regardless of the vote that you cast on Election Tuesday (which was two days ago, as of this podcast release), you're likely shaken by the months and months of drama and rhetoric leading up to the day and perhaps deeply surprised by the result. On Episode 75 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss Tuesday's election honestly and with great vulnerability in hope of sorting through their own feelings, fears, and pain, all the while encouraging listeners to heal and move through this period with grace and love. Ultimately, they believe that Mama Bear is having her moment. She might be angry. She might be baffled. She might be thrilled or surprised by her own feelings. This podcast encourages all of us — no matter who you voted for — to access their Mama Bear for good.

Seven Suggestions for Post-Election Healing

  1. Step away from media
  2. Read a book, listen to music, binge watch Christmas movies, & play family board games
  3. GIVE (channel your energy into being the change for our nation)
  4. Nurture relationships that matter
  5. Take solace in the fact that there is nothing new under the sun
  6. Share a pot of soup with your neighbor and friend (when you're ready)
  7. Activate your Mama Bear

LINKS:

We've addressed several important issues on previous podcasts. You'll find a few, listed by theme, here:

Episode 23 (Immigration) | Episode 67 (Rape Culture) | Episode 73 (Racism)
Episode 48 (Women's issues)

Sexual assault links:

http://www.svfreenyc.org/volun_resources.html

https://www.rainn.org/get-involved

Racial justice links:

SURJ

BLMM

http://greatfutures.org/pages/waystogive.aspx?_ga=1.12737010.43999393.1478702949

http://www.joincampaignzero.org/#vision

http://www.naacp.org/find-local-unit/

Immigration links:

World Relief

https://co.clickandpledge.com/sp/d1/default.aspx?wid=118896

https://www.nilc.org/get-involved/

http://immigrationforum.org/heartsmindslives/

http://www.borderangels.org/our-causes/

Muslim information and advocacy:

https://www.cair.com/cair-chapters.html

LGBTQ information and advocacy:

https://www.mazzonicenter.org/donate-now/volunteer-opportunities

http://srlp.org/get-involved/volunteer/

Climate change:

https://secure.earthjustice.org/site/Donation2?df_id=10960&10960.donation=form1&_ga=1.146521844.1974926048.1478708236

Cowspiracy

https://vault.sierraclub.org/ways-to-give/

Womanhood:

http://www.emilyslist.org/pages/entry/run-for-office

http://actnow.prochoiceamerica.org/signup/volunteer/?source=website#.WCSWOaOZPVp

http://nownyc.org/get-involved/

https://plannedparenthoodrccorpvolunteer.peoplefluent.com/index.html

https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/1438163

https://secure.runningstartonline.org/page/contribute/onetimedonation

https://sheshouldrun.nationbuilder.com/donate


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Episode 65: Ritual & Parenting

In Episode 65 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, hosts Tesi and Leslie introduce listeners to Kendra Thompson. Kendra is mother of two, a pastor, and a writer, and together the three woman focus the conversation on words like myth, habit, routine, ritual, vows, and discipline. Throughout the conversation the women play with these ideas as they try to understand how each of these rather grand-sounding terms fit into our lives. Tesi, Leslie, and Kendra enter this conversation from all sorts of angles: from a mothering standpoint, a spiritual standpoint, and from a partnership standpoint — focusing in on marriage in particular.

Other topics discussed:

  • The layers of serving God, leading a congregation, and raising a family
  • How to pray
  • The spiritual guidance and development of children
  • Recognizing your rituals
  • The spirituality of self-care

LINKS

Find Kendra on Twitter, Instagram, and on her BLOG

Check out the Wendell Berry poem, To My Mother, mentioned in the podcast


Mama Bears, we’re online! Here’s where you can find us:

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much podcasting and really appreciate you listening!!

Help support Mama Bear Dares by shopping with us! Here are our affiliate links:

Do your Amazon shopping here. It costs you nothing and we get a bit of change from Amazon with each purchase! Yay!

Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the beats!

Episode 62: The Clarity & Freedom of Organizing The F Drawer

It's easy to fall victim to our inability to live an authentic life simply by giving up our agency and forgetting that we're the ones steering the ship. Whether it's because we're trying to please someone, we're trying to protect or bolster our reputation, or we just don't know how to say no, so often we end up going places that we have no desire to be, engaging in battles that ultimately don't matter, and spending precious energy on things that are soul-sucking. Co-hosts Leslie and Tesi tackle these ideas in a segment called We Read, We Loved It, Let's Discuss and then jump into a new segment called We See You, which is a celebration of modern-day motherhood and the ways that so many are wearing it with incredible grace and gusto. 

WE READ IT, WE LOVED IT, LET'S DISCUSS

In this portion of the Mama Bear Mini, co-hosts discuss the book The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want To Do by Sarah Knight. The women discuss the need to do internal work in order to live the life we want. They envision tidying up their "mental F drawers," as Knight suggests, and prioritizing things, people, and activities in order to steer the ship that is life. Tesi and Leslie discuss their "F drawers" and "F budgets," organizing and prioritizing in hopes for healthier relationships and richer lives.

In an extension of this conversation, Leslie and Tesi discuss the opportunity as Mama Bears to drawhard-lines and organize our collective Mama Bear "F drawers" in hopes of more peace and less judgement between moms. For instance, child birth. It's hard to judge a natural birth vs. an epidural when you don't give an F.

For your reference: Buy The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F#*k HERE. Listen to Episode 45 about The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

WE SEE YOU

Leslie and Tesi do some reconnaissance on motherhood in the trenches and pull together a list of positive observations. The hosts do this in an act of intentional celebration. Too often women bring what needs to be improved to the forefront and forget about what they slay on the daily. Today, we take the time to lift up big and small victories! Listeners, help us! What have you noticed?


Join the conversation online! Here’s where you can find us:

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Help support Mama Bear Dares by shopping with us! Here are our affiliate links:

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Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

As always, thanks to Wunderkind for the beats!

Pre-order Leslie's book, Mama Bear's Manifesto, by clicking here!

Episode 61: Failure Does Not Define Us with Christina Ceranna

In Episode 61 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie talk to Christina Ceranna about womanhood, friendship, and, most prominently, failure. The three women speak openly about times they've failed, about times they've been afraid to fail, about their children seeing them fail, and about the gifts that accompany the journey. The fear of failure so often stops us from pursuing our passions, simply because we are consumed by the idea that if the proejct fails, then it means we are failures. Today's conversation challenges listeners to become bedmates with failure and begin to understand that it is just another thing can happen to us, but does not define us. Throughout the candid conversation, the hosts lean into the unwavering kindness, thoughtfulness, and positivity of Christina and her quest to constantly grow as an individual.

Other themes that weave in and out of the conversation include:

  • Infertility and adoption
  • Divorce
  • Parenting without an agenda

OBSESS SESH:

We loved hearing about Christina's obsessions! She's currently loving asos.com for clothing (both maternity and otherwise), alcohol-free wine (perfect for the preggo mama), spray tans, and fake eyelashes.

LINKS:

Find Christina HERE.

Christina's recent blog post, When Loving Means Leaving, about her relationship to her mother, who lives with mental illness.

Books: Motherless Daughters | Motherless Mothers | Eat Pray Love | Brene Brown | Love Warrior


Join the conversation online! Here’s where you can find us:

Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and let us know what you’re thinking!

Don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes. We are having so much fun and really appreciate you listening!!

Help support Mama Bear Dares by shopping with us! Here are our affiliate links:

Do your Amazon shopping here. It costs you nothing and we get a bit of change from Amazon with each purchase! Yay!

Today’s episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at www.audible.com/mamabeardares.

As always, thanks to Wunderkind for the beats!

Pre-order Leslie's book, Mama Bear's Manifesto, by clicking here!