Episode 88: It's Never One Person's Work with Tabitha Mparmira-Kaguri

Like many of us, mom, friend, PhD candidate, and activist Tabitha Mpamira-Kaguri has become consumed with by the brokenness of the world. Unlike some, she’s experienced it firsthand, and, heroically, is working for redemption—not just for herself but for victims of sexual assault living in America AND those a world away in sub-Saharan Africa. On Episode 88 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha talk about what it looks like to turn heartache and rage into action and healing. They deep dive into the treatment of women worldwide, the dominance of the pervading rape culture, and the ways in which we can turn the tide toward dignity and equality. The conversation is far-reaching, and will ultimately inspire listens to be open to the pain of the world and engage their Mama Bear to work for justice in ways big and small.

Also discussed in this episode:

  • Gender roles within different cultural traditions
  • The origin of a nonprofit (EDJA)
  • Victim shaming
  • Finding hope in the midst of darkness
  • How to move from an immediate band-aid solution to sustainable change
  • How to raise our children in the midst of rape culture
  • Race in America and embracing your individual racial identity

Links

Find Tabitha online here: EDJA Foundation | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram

Listen to Episode 67 of the MBD podcast: Rape Culture (and why we can't not talk about it)

Have you read Ta-Nehisi Coates Between the World and Me yet? Check it out and let Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha know what you think!



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Episode 86: Joy w/A Side of Desperation with Andrea Levoff

On Episode 86 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Leslie and Tesi go deep with Andrea Levoff, The Dope Ass Mom. Andrea is a writer, performer, stand-up comic (she's a Second City alum!) and mom to two. She's created a dope-ass web series that is purely comedic (and so, so funny!), but her message is earnest and aims to teach moms to find more joy in parenting. In the conversation between the three women, Andrea reveals her wisdom and shares her ongoing journey toward truth. The three women discuss what we can learn from our children, how we can guide them in their development into kind, loving human beings, how we can draw from our partner's strengths, how to let go of expectations and embrace the present, and how to ultimately find joy in the journey.

LINKS:

Here's where you can find Andrea. Go there now!

Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube


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Episode 85: Holiday Survival Guide (Mama Bear Style!)

On this Mama Bear Mini, Leslie and Tesi discuss ways to maintain sanity and fully enjoy the holiday season. They come up with a short, snappy list of ways that they’re planning minimize the stress of the season and celebrate its joys instead. The hosts encourage listeners to allow this season to be one of managed expectations, embracing “okay” (rather than perfectionism!), and allowing a pace that’s relaxed enough to truly enjoy the special moments this season brings. In doing so, Tesi and Leslie remind listeners that in order to outwardly spread their love in the world, they need to fill up on love themselves. Finally, the co-hosts debut a new segment called I Martyr So Hard (#imartyrsohard) in which they examine the posture of a modern-day martyr and fess up to times they’ve entered martyr-mode. You won’t want to miss it!

4 Mama Bear Approved Steps to Finding Joy this Holiday Season

  1. Embrace Tradition and Ritual
  2. Manage Expectations
  3. Banish Perfectionism
  4. Pick a date to be done ... and be done.

Do you martyr so hard??

Please make Leslie and Tesi feel better by letting them know that they’re not the only ones who slip into this mode occasionally! What does this look like for you? When do you martyr-so-hard? Share your stories with the Mama Bear community on social media or via email and use the hashtag #imartyrsohard. The most entertaining will be read in a forthcoming podcast episode!


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Episode 83: Food As Activism

On Episode 83 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk about food as activism. It’s a topic that’s relevant every single day, but because there is a lot of focus on feasting and eating this time of year, the hosts dig deep into how Mama Bear can be engaged as she cooks and eats this holiday season. The co-hosts focus on food as a political act of justice and the act of eating for the larger good. Their message isn’t new—social activists worldwide see food as a means for creating social equality—but their lively conversation focuses on the areas specific to Mama Bear and how she might use the table as a place for social change.

LINKS FOR FURTHER INVESTIGATION:

New York Times Opinion Piece

Healthy Hunger Free Kids information

Information on SNAP

A few of Leslie's Radish Magazine articles on the topic of food: HERE and HERE

Tesi's vegan lasagna recipe can be found HERE

Learn more about Bill McKibben and

National Geographic Food Feature on Hunger in America

Read more about food and the environment HERE

Learn about chocolate and child slavery HERE and HERE

Listen to Episode 79: How to be a Compassionate Consumer this Holiday Season


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Episode 82: Dauntless and Dear with Adina Rosenberg Natanson

On Episode 81 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie give listeners a conversation with Adina Rosenberg Natanson, a woman who is a wife, a mama to two, and the founder of PrenatalFit, a gym in the Lincoln Park neighborhood of Chicago designed for women before, during, and after pregnancy. Over her years in the fitness industry, Adina has established a safe and powerful place for women that aims (much like the podcast) to empower, inspire, and provide unwavering support. The three women talk about the healthy and helpful community that she has built, about the unique experience of pregnancy and birth, and about how to listen to your gut and follow through with your instincts—even when others haven't yet embraced your vision. It’s an inspiring conversation with Anita, a woman who listeners are sure to find to be simultaneously daring and darling.

Other topics discussed:

  • Following your dream in the face of opposition
  • Establishing community in unlikely places
  • The powerful experience of childbirth
  • The fitness industry and alternatives to the "norm"
  • The birthing industry and alternatives to the "norm"
  • Sisterhood and why we need it

Links:

Find Adina online HERE and HERE and HERE

Read The Red Tent by Anita Diamont

Check out The Business of Being Born


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Episode 81: Chocolate and Chips: Talking to Girls on the Precipice of Puberty

On Episode 80 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Leslie and Tesi gave listeners an intimate conversation about shame and self worth with author, mother, and all-around-wise-woman Aubrey Sampson. Based on listener feedback, it was clear that the themes of this podcast resonated: Shame. Our female bodies. How we can love them better and how we might teach our daughters to be empowered in their skin and have a healthy outlook on the human body they were born in. These themes are crucial and the women behind the podcast quickly decided they deserve a follow-up Mama Bear Mini.

On Episode 81, Tesi and Leslie dive deeper into the cultural relationship to the female body and give listeners suggestions on how to promote healthy body image in their home. The two base their conversation on Tesi’s powerful blog post, “An Open Letter to My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty,” and discuss body image, the beautiful attributes of femininity, the power of body language, sex, intimacy, and womanhood, all in hopes of shining the light on shame and furthering the conversation.

We had the conversation we often have when we pass magazines of women tucked, airbrushed and whitened. The idea that she will feel pressure to look a certain way or act a certain way is not new to Dailah because, like me, she is constantly watching and feeling. My conversations with Dailah have morphed from the ‘there is no one way to look or to be healthy and confident and beautiful’ to ‘listen to your gut, don’t drown out that voice inside that tells you the world is wrong or that you’re too much of anything.’
— Excerpt from Tesi's blog post, "To My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty"

LINKS:

Read Tesi's original blog post HERE.

Listen to Episode 22: Stop Interrupting Me HERE.

Listen to Episode 80: Shame is Loud, Truth is Louder with Aubrey Sampson HERE.


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Episode 76: Resilient Souls with Cathy Lander-Goldberg

On Episode 76 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to Cathy Lander-Goldberg, a mother and photographer who this month will open a new exhibit in St. Louis called the Resilient Souls Project, which encourages the inner strength in every woman through portrait and writing. The three women discuss culture, resiliency, body image, and the power of healing through art. Tesi and Leslie listen as Cathy enthuses about her work, her care for vulnerable women, her love of photography, and about her 25 years of work with children, adolescent females and adult women. Cathy, who is also a licensed social worker, uses photography and writing to promote self-awareness and self-expression, a topic of conversation that listeners will be fascinated by.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • Creating art in the age of social media
  • Self portrait vs. selfie
  • Writing and photography as a journey to health
  • Resiliency in modern day mothering

LINKS

Find Cathy Lander-Goldberg online: YouTube | Facebook | WEB | Email

Buy Cathy's book, Photo Explorations: A Girl's Guide To Self-Discovery Through Photography, Writing and Drawing, on AMAZON.

We'd love to see your selfie/self portrait! Share it with Cathy and the Mama Bares online (Facebook, Insta, Twitter -- wherever you're at!) and tag #resilientsouls and #mamabeardares! Let's flood the interwebs with pictures of lovely, thoughtful, beautiful women!


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Episode 70: You Deserve to be Healthy & Well with Dr. Nicole Rankins

On Episode 70 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to OB-GYN and health coach Nicole Rankins about pregnancy, birth, and the long road of taking good care of ourselves throughout the many stages of life. The women dive into the state of healthcare in the United States of America and grasp a practical understanding of the nuances through Nicole's experience and examples. The three spend the hour discussing they why and how of healthcare and learn from Dr. Rankins as she advocates for women becoming the expert on their own lives.

Also discussed in the podcast:

  • Pregnancy—managing expectations, preparing your metaphorical "birthing toolbox," chord clamping, and why the miracle of childbirth never gets old
  • Integrative health coaching—what it is and how you might benefit
  • Self care IS health care—being your own advocate, getting to know your body and its needs, practicing meditation, and the importance of asking for help

LINKS

Nicole's website (there you'll find her email and all kinds of other information

Why You Don't Have A Health Coach and Why You Should


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Episode 68: Get It Together with Eirene Heidelberger

On Episode 68 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk to Eirene Heidelberger, the CEO and founder of GITMom, a full-service parent coaching and advice company that endeavors to empower moms by offering effective parenting techniques and help with common parenting battles. Though Eirene has been frequently featured in the national news media, on today's podcast the women get intimate while sitting down in Eirene's home as she opens up to discuss her childhood, her struggles with new motherhood, her frustrations and her hopes, and the way she found her way to becoming the thriving woman, mother, and business owner that she is today.

Here's a secret: very few of us arrive at motherhood with complete understanding and a full knowledge of what it will be like. Sometimes we simply need a hand to hold or a tribe to join in order to catch glimpses of light. Eirene, Tesi, and Leslie hold a discussion that will contribute to that sunshine...offering hope, understanding, and a few practical tips on life in the trenches.

Also discussed:

  • How the environment you grew up in can shape the way you mother your children
  • GITMom's origin story
  • The "art" of parenting — right-brained or left-brained, we're all artists!
  • The special role of mothers and how to find new moms the support they need
  • Identifying and addressing our triggers as parents
  • The importance of taking care of yourself before you can care with others

OBSESS SESH with GITMom

Canadian Pinot Noir | Baby Pink Wool Coat | Parenting Victories

LINKS

Find Eirene online. She'd love to connect! WEB  | FB | Email |

TODAY Parents blog | Huffington Post blog

GIT MOM GIVEAWAY

Head over to the GIT Mom Facebook page and comment on any of Eirene's posts from now until October 31st and then LIKE her page to be entered to win a 1-hour coaching session to fix any parenting issue your family is facing!! Maybe you can't get your toddler to preschool without being a sweaty mess. Maybe your partner thinks he's "babysitting" his own child and you need to convince him otherwise. Or, you just can't find your mom happiness because all you do is wipe poopy butts. You and Eirene will spend an hour over Skype and Get It Together!


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Episode 67: Rape Culture & Why We Can't Not Talk About It

On today's special episode, Tesi and Leslie explore a topic that they touched on in Episode 30 but believe warrants further discussion because of recent news events. On this episode, the co-hosts discuss rape culture—what it means, how it’s perpetuated, who is at fault, how it plays out in our lives, and the repercussions for us as women and moms. Ultimately, the two hope that by engaging in the conversation in the safe space of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, they will encourage listeners to engage their Mama Bear and help move the dial forward. Here are the main points discussed:

  • A definition of rape culture
  • A discussion of what rape culture has been and how it continues to be perpetuated
  • The repercussions — on all of us — for living in this culture
  • How moms of boys can help squash rape culture
  • How moms of girls can help squash rape culture

LINKS:

In preparing this episode, the hosts found the following links to be helpful. Please note that this is not a comprehensive list, but a start toward understanding and action:

Brock Turner | Victim Shaming | Black Women and Victimization | Transgender Violence | The link between domestic violence and murder | Rape in Prison | Kelly Oxford on Twitter | What Trump/Cosby allegations have taught us about rape culture

Revisit Episode 30: Gorilla, Rape Culture, and the Role of Parents


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Thanks, as always, to Wunderkind for the beats!