Episode 89: Creating Your Family Brand

On Episode 89 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie get practical. As a family unit in a complex world, they know that listeners are just like them...they’re continually evolving and redefining who they are and where their values lie. How do we identify those values and live them out on the daily? How do we express our values as a family? One way is through the creation of a “family brand.” Tesi and Leslie follow cues from Bruce Feiler’s The Secrets of Happy Families and dive into how to make a family brand. Similar to a mission statement, a family brand is a motivator when obstacles mount and articulates success in times of celebration; can help parents make decisions in moments both big and small; and is easily repeatable and ultimately can unite your household and serve as a reminder of what you hold dear. The Mama Bears love the promise that the new year brings and today’s episode will follow the theme of new beginnings and narrow in on how our intentions of lovingkindness might play out as a family unit. Be sure to listen in as Tesi and Leslie reveal their own family brands and help you create your own!

Steps to Creating Your Family Brand*

  1. Carve Out Time
  2. Center and Discuss
  3. Try it On
  4. Print it Out to Live it Out
  5. Revisit and Reflect

*For more detailed instructions, listen to the podcast or check out the Mama Bear Blog.

LINK:

The Secrets of Happy Families, by Bruce Feiler



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Episode 88: It's Never One Person's Work with Tabitha Mparmira-Kaguri

Like many of us, mom, friend, PhD candidate, and activist Tabitha Mpamira-Kaguri has become consumed with by the brokenness of the world. Unlike some, she’s experienced it firsthand, and, heroically, is working for redemption—not just for herself but for victims of sexual assault living in America AND those a world away in sub-Saharan Africa. On Episode 88 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha talk about what it looks like to turn heartache and rage into action and healing. They deep dive into the treatment of women worldwide, the dominance of the pervading rape culture, and the ways in which we can turn the tide toward dignity and equality. The conversation is far-reaching, and will ultimately inspire listens to be open to the pain of the world and engage their Mama Bear to work for justice in ways big and small.

Also discussed in this episode:

  • Gender roles within different cultural traditions
  • The origin of a nonprofit (EDJA)
  • Victim shaming
  • Finding hope in the midst of darkness
  • How to move from an immediate band-aid solution to sustainable change
  • How to raise our children in the midst of rape culture
  • Race in America and embracing your individual racial identity

Links

Find Tabitha online here: EDJA Foundation | Facebook | Twitter | Instagram

Listen to Episode 67 of the MBD podcast: Rape Culture (and why we can't not talk about it)

Have you read Ta-Nehisi Coates Between the World and Me yet? Check it out and let Tesi, Leslie, and Tabitha know what you think!



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Episode 86: Joy w/A Side of Desperation with Andrea Levoff

On Episode 86 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Leslie and Tesi go deep with Andrea Levoff, The Dope Ass Mom. Andrea is a writer, performer, stand-up comic (she's a Second City alum!) and mom to two. She's created a dope-ass web series that is purely comedic (and so, so funny!), but her message is earnest and aims to teach moms to find more joy in parenting. In the conversation between the three women, Andrea reveals her wisdom and shares her ongoing journey toward truth. The three women discuss what we can learn from our children, how we can guide them in their development into kind, loving human beings, how we can draw from our partner's strengths, how to let go of expectations and embrace the present, and how to ultimately find joy in the journey.

LINKS:

Here's where you can find Andrea. Go there now!

Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube


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Episode 85: Holiday Survival Guide (Mama Bear Style!)

On this Mama Bear Mini, Leslie and Tesi discuss ways to maintain sanity and fully enjoy the holiday season. They come up with a short, snappy list of ways that they’re planning minimize the stress of the season and celebrate its joys instead. The hosts encourage listeners to allow this season to be one of managed expectations, embracing “okay” (rather than perfectionism!), and allowing a pace that’s relaxed enough to truly enjoy the special moments this season brings. In doing so, Tesi and Leslie remind listeners that in order to outwardly spread their love in the world, they need to fill up on love themselves. Finally, the co-hosts debut a new segment called I Martyr So Hard (#imartyrsohard) in which they examine the posture of a modern-day martyr and fess up to times they’ve entered martyr-mode. You won’t want to miss it!

4 Mama Bear Approved Steps to Finding Joy this Holiday Season

  1. Embrace Tradition and Ritual
  2. Manage Expectations
  3. Banish Perfectionism
  4. Pick a date to be done ... and be done.

Do you martyr so hard??

Please make Leslie and Tesi feel better by letting them know that they’re not the only ones who slip into this mode occasionally! What does this look like for you? When do you martyr-so-hard? Share your stories with the Mama Bear community on social media or via email and use the hashtag #imartyrsohard. The most entertaining will be read in a forthcoming podcast episode!


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Episode 84: Holding Up the Mirror of Sanity (Youth Sports Edition) with Margot Starbuck

On Episode 84 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie converse with Margot Starbuck about a topic back by popular demand: Youth Sports Culture. Margot is the author of the book Overplayed: A Parent's Guide to Sanity in the World of Youth Sports and offers hosts and listeners great insight and information about the current landscape of youth sports in America and encourages us to engage our Mama Bear for the sake of our kids and the American psyche. This episode of full of great statistics and research, helpful anecdotes, and wisdom that applies to parenting athletes and non-athletes alike.

Other topics discussed:

  • The history of youth sports in America
  • Overuse, injuries, and the growing human body
  • How to identify passion, nurture talent, and encourage movement without pressure
  • A Mama Bear Sorority to support one another in mediocre, lazy, and cheap parenting
  • Pros and Cons of organized sports, travel teams, and pursuing excellence on the playing field

LINKS:

Find Margot online:

Website | Free downloadable discussion guide | Invite Margot to speak!

Read about NCAA collegiate athletes making it to professional sports.

Read about high school athletes getting college scholarships.

Mama Bear Dares Episode 56: Youth Sports: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Mama Bear Dares Episode 38: The Horizontal Tango


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Episode 82: Dauntless and Dear with Adina Rosenberg Natanson

On Episode 81 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Tesi and Leslie give listeners a conversation with Adina Rosenberg Natanson, a woman who is a wife, a mama to two, and the founder of PrenatalFit, a gym in the Lincoln Park neighborhood of Chicago designed for women before, during, and after pregnancy. Over her years in the fitness industry, Adina has established a safe and powerful place for women that aims (much like the podcast) to empower, inspire, and provide unwavering support. The three women talk about the healthy and helpful community that she has built, about the unique experience of pregnancy and birth, and about how to listen to your gut and follow through with your instincts—even when others haven't yet embraced your vision. It’s an inspiring conversation with Anita, a woman who listeners are sure to find to be simultaneously daring and darling.

Other topics discussed:

  • Following your dream in the face of opposition
  • Establishing community in unlikely places
  • The powerful experience of childbirth
  • The fitness industry and alternatives to the "norm"
  • The birthing industry and alternatives to the "norm"
  • Sisterhood and why we need it

Links:

Find Adina online HERE and HERE and HERE

Read The Red Tent by Anita Diamont

Check out The Business of Being Born


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Episode 81: Chocolate and Chips: Talking to Girls on the Precipice of Puberty

On Episode 80 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, Leslie and Tesi gave listeners an intimate conversation about shame and self worth with author, mother, and all-around-wise-woman Aubrey Sampson. Based on listener feedback, it was clear that the themes of this podcast resonated: Shame. Our female bodies. How we can love them better and how we might teach our daughters to be empowered in their skin and have a healthy outlook on the human body they were born in. These themes are crucial and the women behind the podcast quickly decided they deserve a follow-up Mama Bear Mini.

On Episode 81, Tesi and Leslie dive deeper into the cultural relationship to the female body and give listeners suggestions on how to promote healthy body image in their home. The two base their conversation on Tesi’s powerful blog post, “An Open Letter to My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty,” and discuss body image, the beautiful attributes of femininity, the power of body language, sex, intimacy, and womanhood, all in hopes of shining the light on shame and furthering the conversation.

We had the conversation we often have when we pass magazines of women tucked, airbrushed and whitened. The idea that she will feel pressure to look a certain way or act a certain way is not new to Dailah because, like me, she is constantly watching and feeling. My conversations with Dailah have morphed from the ‘there is no one way to look or to be healthy and confident and beautiful’ to ‘listen to your gut, don’t drown out that voice inside that tells you the world is wrong or that you’re too much of anything.’
— Excerpt from Tesi's blog post, "To My Daughter on the Precipice of Puberty"

LINKS:

Read Tesi's original blog post HERE.

Listen to Episode 22: Stop Interrupting Me HERE.

Listen to Episode 80: Shame is Loud, Truth is Louder with Aubrey Sampson HERE.


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Episode 79: How to be a Compassionate Consumer this Holiday Season

On Episode 79 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Tesi and Leslie talk about how we can exercise compassionate consumerism this holiday season. The hosts give practical tips on ways to engage the Mama Bear to create ripples of hope and justice in what is typically a very intense season of buying. We believe a good Mama Bear can give their families and their children great gifts and a magical season without exploiting those producing and manufacturing, and all the while remaining true to their values and principles. The waves of our culture are very strong this time of year so the hosts hope to offer a bit of a primer and encourage listeners to lead with love as they exercise their purchasing power this holiday season.

LINKS:

Shop here first:


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Episode 73: 10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

On Episode 73 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie discuss privilege, racism, and 10 ways they believe white moms can use their privilege to fight racism and spread love. They trust that the podcast community is a safe place to express their observations, experiences, and beliefs about this topic and humbly ask readers to consider their perspective, poke holes in their theories, and promise to journey together to make a better tomorrow. Lovers of actionable steps and lists, Leslie and Tesi come up with 10 tangible ways to engage their Mama Bear in this fight. The 10 steps are listed below; for complete details and explanation, listen in!

10 Things White Moms Can Do To Fight Racism & Spread Love

  1. Acknowledge your privilege
  2. Learn about implicit bias and examine how it plays out in your life
  3. Listen and learn from those to whom the experience belongs
  4. Amplify the voices of people of color
  5. Talk to your kids, your neighbor, the mail carrier, and your mom about why Black Lives Matter movement matters
  6. Teach your kids that skin color matters
  7. Be a co-conspirator
  8. Advocate for diversity in your life
  9. Pronounce your kids’ friends name’s correctly
  10. Avoid sing racially coded language at home and in conversation

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Episode 67: Rape Culture & Why We Can't Not Talk About It

On today's special episode, Tesi and Leslie explore a topic that they touched on in Episode 30 but believe warrants further discussion because of recent news events. On this episode, the co-hosts discuss rape culture—what it means, how it’s perpetuated, who is at fault, how it plays out in our lives, and the repercussions for us as women and moms. Ultimately, the two hope that by engaging in the conversation in the safe space of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, they will encourage listeners to engage their Mama Bear and help move the dial forward. Here are the main points discussed:

  • A definition of rape culture
  • A discussion of what rape culture has been and how it continues to be perpetuated
  • The repercussions — on all of us — for living in this culture
  • How moms of boys can help squash rape culture
  • How moms of girls can help squash rape culture

LINKS:

In preparing this episode, the hosts found the following links to be helpful. Please note that this is not a comprehensive list, but a start toward understanding and action:

Brock Turner | Victim Shaming | Black Women and Victimization | Transgender Violence | The link between domestic violence and murder | Rape in Prison | Kelly Oxford on Twitter | What Trump/Cosby allegations have taught us about rape culture

Revisit Episode 30: Gorilla, Rape Culture, and the Role of Parents


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Episode 65: Ritual & Parenting

In Episode 65 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, hosts Tesi and Leslie introduce listeners to Kendra Thompson. Kendra is mother of two, a pastor, and a writer, and together the three woman focus the conversation on words like myth, habit, routine, ritual, vows, and discipline. Throughout the conversation the women play with these ideas as they try to understand how each of these rather grand-sounding terms fit into our lives. Tesi, Leslie, and Kendra enter this conversation from all sorts of angles: from a mothering standpoint, a spiritual standpoint, and from a partnership standpoint — focusing in on marriage in particular.

Other topics discussed:

  • The layers of serving God, leading a congregation, and raising a family
  • How to pray
  • The spiritual guidance and development of children
  • Recognizing your rituals
  • The spirituality of self-care

LINKS

Find Kendra on Twitter, Instagram, and on her BLOG

Check out the Wendell Berry poem, To My Mother, mentioned in the podcast


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Episode 63: Taking on the Mantle of Motherhood with Julie Lyles Carr

On Episode 63 of the Mama Bear Dares podcast, Leslie and Tesi spend the hour with Julie Lyles Carr, an incredible and inspiring woman who is a writer, photographer, pastor, and the founder/director of a non-profit called Legacy of Hope. Julie drops by the podcast to tell the hosts about her new book, Raising An Original, but the three women end up covering not just the topics inherent to writing and the content of what she's created, but the importance of staying curious, taking care of the Other Self (for Julie, running, reading, bathing, and quiet time does the trick!), and best practices in parenting original kids as the original women and men we were created to be. The conversation stretches in all sorts of ways and Leslie and Tesi spend their time soaking up the wisdom of this delightful woman. Julie is thoughtful and intelligent, loving and charming. If you are for growth, action, and intentional and nuanced parenting, you'll adore today's conversation.

Also discussed on the podcast:

  • The beauty of staying curious
  • Becoming a mouthpiece to solutions in this broken world
  • Honoring your original kid
  • Honoring the original way in which you parent
  • Giving ourselves permission to BE an original so that we can RAISE an original
  • The danger of asking our children to carry our identity
  • Awakening your "noticer" — paying attention to each child's unique personality and human traits, and recognizing this as a process that is forever changing

LINKS:

Buy Julie's book, Raising An Original, HERE.

Learn more about Julie Lyles Carr HERE.

Have you heard of an ambivert?

Check out Legacy of Hope Austin and be inspired!


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Pre-order Leslie's book, Mama Bear's Manifesto, by clicking here!

Episode 61: Failure Does Not Define Us with Christina Ceranna

In Episode 61 of the Mama Bear Dares Podcast, co-hosts Tesi and Leslie talk to Christina Ceranna about womanhood, friendship, and, most prominently, failure. The three women speak openly about times they've failed, about times they've been afraid to fail, about their children seeing them fail, and about the gifts that accompany the journey. The fear of failure so often stops us from pursuing our passions, simply because we are consumed by the idea that if the proejct fails, then it means we are failures. Today's conversation challenges listeners to become bedmates with failure and begin to understand that it is just another thing can happen to us, but does not define us. Throughout the candid conversation, the hosts lean into the unwavering kindness, thoughtfulness, and positivity of Christina and her quest to constantly grow as an individual.

Other themes that weave in and out of the conversation include:

  • Infertility and adoption
  • Divorce
  • Parenting without an agenda

OBSESS SESH:

We loved hearing about Christina's obsessions! She's currently loving asos.com for clothing (both maternity and otherwise), alcohol-free wine (perfect for the preggo mama), spray tans, and fake eyelashes.

LINKS:

Find Christina HERE.

Christina's recent blog post, When Loving Means Leaving, about her relationship to her mother, who lives with mental illness.

Books: Motherless Daughters | Motherless Mothers | Eat Pray Love | Brene Brown | Love Warrior


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